Rosebud3 Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Sooo, I'm an even 5'4 and my SO is about 5'2 or '3. We will be meeting in about 2 weeks, the height does not bother me, but I know for him, he will feel a bit awkward. I dont know how to bring it up with him. I've told him before that it doesnt change the way i feel about him, but i can tell hes still bothered a bit on the fact that im taller. Has anyone else gone through this and how did you feel?
madjac74 Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 (edited) He may just have confidence issues about his height in general and not just because you are taller than him but because most of the world is taller than him. A lot of guys tend to think that all girls want the tall, muscular guys and he could be worried you will reject him. Im assuming this is the first time you have ever met? Does he talk about his height often like its a major concern for him? You should just enjoy your meeting with him and see how it goes and maybe he will feel very comfortable with you and it wont be an issue anymore. And you probably shouldn't wear high heels Edited July 10, 2011 by madjac74 I cant believe I spelled height wrong twice
Lucky_One Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I am reasonably confident that he has been shorter than over half of the woman that he has gone out with, or met, or hung out with. (28.9% of women in the US are shorter than he is.) Don't make a big deal out of it, and hopefully he won't either. Have fun on the first meeting!
KathyM Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 5'2" is awfully short for a guy. Not going to be much to choose from for him it he wants someone shorter than him. My husband and I are both the same height (5'8"), but I often appear taller because I wear high heels. He doesn't seem to have a problem with it. For some women, height is important in an attraction. I prefer men who are not so tall. It's easier to hug them.
Afishwithabike Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 (edited) 5'2" is quite short for a man. I'm not a particularly tall woman, but I'm taller than that even without heels. Some women prefer tall men. You don't so that's good for him. Just keep reassuring your SO that you like him as he is. He might need to hear that for a while. He has an insecurity about something he really can't do anything about. The average woman in the US is about 5'4" so he either has to learn to deal with his height or date only women who are shorter than him. Edited July 10, 2011 by Afishwithabike
Feelin Frisky Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 The man who built modern America was 5'-3". His name was Andrew Carnegie. Big things come in small packages sometimes. Good luck.
cerridwen Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Don't bring it up if he doesn't. I bet much of his concern is based on if YOU'LL be disappointed with his height. Once you've spent some time together, his concern may dissipate in the glow of your budding love! He'll see your acceptance, wallow in your caring, and the issue may naturally be put to bed.
Pierre Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I love tall women, but I am 6'3". Most women are way shorter than me. Sometimes I have fantasies about being a shorty so I can date a lot of woman, ha,ha. At 5'2" most women will be taller. Lucky guy.
creighton0123 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Don't wear heels. Flats are more comfortable anyhow, I hear.
D-Lish Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I'm a little taller than 5'7"- and my last bf was probably about 5'6"- I wore heels around him and he seemed okay with it at first, but he started to complain after a while. I went out and bought a whole bunch of flats. For the first month of dating, he never took his shoes off until we went to bed. They gave him some height, so he left them on while around me. It never bothered me, but it obviously bothered him a lot.
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