blazer2001 Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 well long story short i have done bad things being an alcoholic never cheating but duis and stuff and being mean and the wife has been going at the past so much and cant forgive me and just being really mean and hatefull twards me . i have 10 months sober and plan to stay that way but yesterday i packed up and left and im going crazy being lonley already and i miss my kids i really have no one to talk to so i came here . i cant eat and feel like throwing up and just cant think straight is this normal i feel like my life is over i have a 8 year old girl and a 8 month old boy . i have lost my house and my carrer besause of drinking and now gonna owe some jail time in the next few months . she just didnt see a future with me and bascilly wanted me gone yesterday . how do i repair and start over all i wanna care about is my kids but im a day late and adollar short
Downtown Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Blazer, yes, the confusion and despair you are feeling are normal for a man who is suffering from depression. Indeed, you likely were at least mildly depressed before this disaster occurred. That is, you drinking probably was your way of self medicating to avoid dealing with your depression. I therefore caution that depression can be a deadly illness, leading to such despair that you feel everyone is better off without you. That is not true. Don't believe it. Suicide will cause enormous pain to others in your family. Right now, however, your perception of things is distorted by your severe pain. I urge you to seek professional help from a therapist to help you through this crisis. If only for a few months, it will be very helpful to get an anti-depressive med to take the edge off your pain and to help you see things more clearly. Take care, Blazer.
Mauschen Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Go see a therapist. Then visit marriagebuilders.com to gain some helpful tips about meeting the needs of a woman (read Dr. Harley's book His Needs Her Needs too). My ex husband drank and smoked weed (and still does) and it really took a toll on me. However, if he had made an effot to change and I could see that change, I would have given him another chance.
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