Saphira Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Ok, So My best friend has an older brother. and we like each other and im guessing the family noticed the conection because my friend was mentioning that her family was talking about it. (neither me or the older brother new of the conversation). So my friend asked if i would mind going on a date with her brother. and i said i would like it actually. Long story short i asked her brother out, He is very shy, and i have no problem doing the asking. anyway he said he would love to. that he loves talking to me, and thinks im the coolest person he has met in a long time and would love to date me. we set a date and everything. but then a few moments later he told me how sorry he was and that he had gotten to thinking about it and he thought it may be weird because im his younger sisters best friend. that he would love to date me but he would hate for something to happen. (in case it didn't work out he didn't want to jeopardize my and my friends relationship). I guess what i am getting at is, is it really that big of deal? to you guys out there. would it really be a no-go even though you have feelings for someone just because they are friends with your sibling?
Author Saphira Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 yes, i thought that too. and i left a message explaining things. and his sister told him us dating wouldn't bother her. i understand girls talk but i also know she doesnt want to hear that. being his sister and all lol. that would be gross. thanks for the reply
Saxis Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I was in that situation once, nearly identical with my best friend's sister. She was always very flirty with me, we went to dances together and their mom was always hinting at us getting together. I even lived with their family for a few months to finish school while my parents were moving. I always held back because they were like a second family to me, and I never wanted to jeopardize that. I regret it. Here it is, 12 years later, we've both been in and out of serious relationships, she's in one now, but the chemistry is still there with us. It's uncomfortable with her SO around, as she still does the touchy feely flirty stuff. At least you guys had some talk about it, so you both know the option is on the table. We never did, and like I said, it is a regret I've carried for a long time.
Dust Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I think it’s kind of lame how shy he is and that you had to ask him out. I think it’s even lamer that after you asked him out and he acted all excited he now comes to some realization that it some how wouldn’t be right because if things went wrong it would be awkward and bad for your friendship. I say forget him if this is his take.
thatone Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 (edited) I was in that situation once, nearly identical with my best friend's sister. She was always very flirty with me, we went to dances together and their mom was always hinting at us getting together. I even lived with their family for a few months to finish school while my parents were moving. I always held back because they were like a second family to me, and I never wanted to jeopardize that. I regret it. Here it is, 12 years later, we've both been in and out of serious relationships, she's in one now, but the chemistry is still there with us. It's uncomfortable with her SO around, as she still does the touchy feely flirty stuff. been in the same boat, man. my best male friend from high school had two very attractive sisters. both struggling to find men in their early 20s, and i used to go visit in between semesters when i was in college. the younger of the two sisters hinted a time or two when i got into town while the brother was at work and i had to kill time that "you should call me if he's busy, we could go out while you're waiting on him". i always put the idea out of my head when she suggested such things with that idea that "you don't screw around with your friend's sister". looking back on it, yeah, it was a mistake. she's arguably more beautiful now in her early 30s than she was at 21-22, one of those rare tall skinny blondes from high school that got better looking with age. and pretty much the same person she was then. she was looking for a ticket out of the small rural town she grew up in and was willing to commit to whoever would give it to her, i was going to college in new orleans at the time so that was her attraction. only problem is she has now been happily married for about 10 years to a guy she met while traveling abroad. lesson: don't pass the good ones up. Edited July 10, 2011 by thatone
Author Saphira Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 I was in that situation once, nearly identical with my best friend's sister. She was always very flirty with me, we went to dances together and their mom was always hinting at us getting together. I even lived with their family for a few months to finish school while my parents were moving. I always held back because they were like a second family to me, and I never wanted to jeopardize that. I regret it. Here it is, 12 years later, we've both been in and out of serious relationships, she's in one now, but the chemistry is still there with us. It's uncomfortable with her SO around, as she still does the touchy feely flirty stuff. At least you guys had some talk about it, so you both know the option is on the table. We never did, and like I said, it is a regret I've carried for a long time. Im sorry to hear about that. and the regret you have. Now i just hope it isn't awkward around us because we both know feelings are there now lol. I hope your situation finds a happy ending one day
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