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[ON MY OWN]

Need some advice. My other thread was apparently too lengthy so I am going to try and shorten it some to make it easier to read.

 

Go to a private college. Had a friend there I sat with for a few hours each day. There were 4 other girls there also. Various ages. The one friend I actually went out with and talked with outside of school as well as been to her house a handful of times.

 

One night out of the blue she calls me up and tells me 2 girls want to move from our table as it is too crowded. There are a few other tables that have same number of people at it and do not have this issue. (My other friend that I confided in that goes to same college pointed out).

It occured to me she was accurate with that statement. She was actually at one of the so called crowded tables.

 

She says she didnt know what to do but felt bad and would move herself because she was last to sit there. Actually I was and she knew this but never said anything. So I said actually I was last one there and I will move. I did also say I was tired of drama all the time. There is a lot of it at that school which she has confided and agreed with me in the past that we are both wanting to finish our education and are "chill".

 

I move. Sit with a few different people that are genuine and dont get involved with that clique. Quite a few have joined into this clique and are giving me and my friend dirty looks and not talking and actually have been quite rude to my friend. We are supposed to be professional. My newer friend and I have maintained this.

 

We have to go to a different campus a few days out of the week. The one we carpool with had a party and apparently I was not invited due to the fact she had previously invited the others and did not know there was a "tif" and chose not to invite me. She has normally been nice to me but is very close to one of the ones "hired" tp give me dirty looks throughout our day and hike her nose higher than it normally is to the ceiling when she is around me or the newer friend.

 

The newer friend now wants to just take her own car because she says she does not want to be involved with people like that at all. We are not wanted there. She said I am welcome to ride with her until we are done for the year.

 

My questions are few but important. I also want everyone who reads this to understand that I do not care about the other girls friendships. Those are not true friends anyhow. I have my own friends and life outside of school and interested in my education. However as my other friend pointed out they are sporadically placed throughout the rooms we are in together and it is hard to spend so much time getting treated that way and be right in the middle of it all for many hours on a daily basis.

 

My newer friend was crying and wants to belong. I do not care about those particulars the way she does (always sad that she was never invited to stuff. I was and never was overly interested in partying...not my goal in school.) My hard time is sitting in the middle of the drama and dirty ugly faced looks constantly shot at me for hours on end and how to switch vehicles without making myself look bad to the driver.

 

If I do ride with the other girl, how do I do it without coming across like the person the other 5 girls are saying I am and making it look true?

 

How do I cope with an issue like this? Any experiences?

 

Thank you ~

OMO