Saoshyant 4329 Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Ok, so me & my ex dated for a little over 5 months. Things were great mostly, but there were a few issues. First off, it was a long distance relationship. She lived a good hour & a half away, but I'd still see her pretty often. Things were great though. We talked every day, we were totally in love (No, there was not any sex. I'm 18 & she's younger, so we set boundaries right away). Anyway, about a month before she dumped me, we started getting into quite a few small arguments. It was just over stupid stuff. We weren't talking as much as usual, and she would hang out with other guys till like 10 pm some nights, so I got suspicious. So we argued a bit. A few nights before we broke up though, I actually went behind my parent's backs by saying I'm going to spend the night at a friend's house, and then I drove instead to her house at 9 or 10 that night. I did this because I was worried about losing her. Long story short, her mom saw me outside talking to her, so they brought me inside to sleep instead of sleeping in the car. The next morning, she told me while we cuddled that I had NOTHING to worry about, that she still loved me the same as she always has. And then 2 days later, I got a text saying we were done. I couldn't talk to her, as she was grounded and just sneaked that text to me. So I had to wait. I went up that weekend for a few days because we already had prior plans that I was gonna take her family to a concert they invited me to, and since I was their ride, I couldn't back out. So we spent those few days together, and all in all, I found out she cheated on me by kissing another guy 1 time, and she felt guilty and left so she didn't hurt me again. I told her I forgive her (which I do honestly) and I still loved her and that I wanted her back with me. I know I messed some things up by trying to take all her free time to talk to her on the phone, and I didn't support her when she got a new job cuz I was afraid I'd get no time to talk to her. So the cheating + the earlier fights caused her to leave me. And now ever since then, whenever I talk to her about us, she says she doesn't want to date me (and possibly hurt me) right now and she's not sure if we'll ever have another go later on even. But then just tonight, she messaged me on facebook, and she wants me to come pick her up so we can hang out here in my town. This comes after a month or so of us barely talking any more than a little bit as casual friends. I'm crazy in love with this girl and feel she's the one. I know she may not be ready for a long distance serious thing as of now (she's not even 18) but I'd at least like to get her to agree to dating later on. She only said maybe when I asked her. So please, if anyone knows any ideas or suggestions as to what I have to do or can do to win her back, I'd very much appreciate it. I love this girl like crazy and she said she's never had a guy she felt so strongly for than me. Even if I can't get her back now, I'll wait for her however long she wants me to if she'll just say yes to picking things up later... Please guys, I don't know what to do & I can't lose her forever...
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