rafallus Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 From what I understand it was based on real life adventures of a new york times reporter and is regarded by the PUA community as a defining work. I wasn't trying to suggest it had educational value. In fact I'm arguing just the opposite, at least for those looking for a healthy long term relationship. Actually, I happen to be posting on one of PUA forums as well, (I don't think it's in good taste to post its full name, I'll just post "TAF" as its acronym), and their stance on "The Game" is pretty much as I wrote. There are also quite a few women posters, some established and not flaming at all - quite the opposite, they give plenty of advice. Not to mention a number of relationship oriented posters (in fact, "pump and dump" guys seem to be in minority) Ergo, do not judge a book...
Author bluenightowl Posted July 9, 2011 Author Posted July 9, 2011 I agree with the OP. If a guy or girl came here, and they were told to break up with their boyfriend...and that person was the only one for them...I'd hate to see them sitting alone at home on a friday night, for the rest of their life, instead of working things out. That's kind of what this forum promotes...not working things out, ditch the problem maker instead of fixing the problems. And that is why I get frustrated here. Great points. I do think there are a fair number of people on here who have been hurt in dating or a relationship, and if that is partly true, then I know myself we try to learn from these things and find ways to ensure they never happen again. To make mistakes is possibly the best way to enforce a change and to learn, but going too far into absolute rules, and quick reactionary means ( as you say .. not working things out ) to avoid getting hurt again, may lead to disappointment as well. I suppose that phrase everything in moderation still applies.
Disillusioned Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I think its people looking for healthy and committed long term relationships not games. That's not true. If people were looking for healthy, committed LTRs, dating would be logical and boring, and PUAs would be out in the cold. I think almost all of the singles on the market today are PUAs to some extent. I happen to be one of the very few who thinks the game is a sham and I refuse to play it.
betterdeal Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 People do actually win the lottery. Someone has to, right? But I'm not about to suggest that anyone base a lifestyle around it. My best friend does, but he's a consultant who gets paid handsomely by Camelot to do their risk analysis.
Author bluenightowl Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 That's not true. If people were looking for healthy, committed LTRs, dating would be logical and boring, and PUAs would be out in the cold. I think almost all of the singles on the market today are PUAs to some extent. I happen to be one of the very few who thinks the game is a sham and I refuse to play it. Good point. It does depend what you're looking for I agree. Not everyone wants a LTR right away or ever, and for sure at the beginning especially its fun to do play the dating dance. So too can seeking a healthy relationship be fun, exciting, loving, etc. all at the same time.
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