VELVET21 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 soo today i got an email...he said " stop this,why do u want to make things harder..."....i was like wtf:confused: today is my 2nd day NC...i didnt know whether to reply or not...but i did anyway. i asked him what was he talkin about. He said "why are u telling your friends to emailed me, seriously". Turns out my best friend emailed him today telling him what he did wasnt nice and he was a coward.... I DIDNT told her to do that at all! She told me i just wanted to talk to him i didnt thought he was gonna tell u i told him not to!....she messed up, and i know anything i tell my ex is not gonna make him stop believing im behaving like a child.... i told my ex i didnt tell her to do that, i respect his decision of breaking up even tho i thought it was messed up how he did it and if he wanted to pretend nothing happen between us (as u may know he blocked me from everything)i was ok with it, i said sorry for what she did she probably thought she was helping me in nsome way idk. im upset with my best friend why would she do that i know maybe what she meant was good but still it was none of her business...my ex replied to that mail saying "ok i love you take care" Hes confusing me sooooo much why would he said that? he "loves"me?? anyway im feeling like sh*t now...
TheHurtProcess Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I would just ignore the last part. It's quite obvious that he's trying to keep you on the backburner and that he's stringing you along. Just go back to NC. I would tell everyone to leave him be as well. This way hopefully he won't have any reason to bother you anymore and you won't be tempted to break NC. In fact ignore anything he says... They're all breadcrumbs. No need to analyze it all. Unless he straight up comes out and says that he wants you back or something of the sort, it's all BS and there's no reason to even acknowledge the BS. I wish you the best of luck on you journey to healing. You can do it. I'm going on week four of NC and the first week was the worse. It does get easier as time goes on. Try to just push him out of your mind altogether, but don't forget to grieve here and there. It's only healthy. Just give yourself a little time everyday to mourn and the rest of the day keep telling yourself that "he's not worth your thoughts or your tears". Save it all for that time you've put aside for yourself. Before you know it, you'll be good as new, back to your old self again
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 yeah seems as though your friend did you wrong, but with good intentions. kindly tell her that you would like her to remain your friend but not get involved with your ex because it does more harm than good, and also thank her if you believe her intentions were good. But don't worry about the email and the "I love you", he is your ex so don't take any "I love you"'s seriously unless the conversation also includes "reconcile". I understand how low it makes you feel when your ex initiates unneeded contact and also tries to accuse you of something but stay strong. You will get through this with flying colors, probably to a point where you will look back at this situation and say "wtf was I thinking?". Best of wishes to you and remain strong.
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