bluenightowl Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 If you have ever rebounded, do you feel kinda numb to sex... in the sense that yeah, I'm horny as hell to have it, but I'm still attached mentally to my bf/gf. Have you made your worst, most careless dating blunders on the rebound? ie. sex on the first date.. unprotected sex.. sex with your exs friend.. etc. etc. Lastly have you ever been hurt on the rebound or think you might have hurt someone else?
NG85 Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Yes to all 3 scenarios. About 2 months after my last big break up I was still rebounding hard. A friend of mine brought a girl to a party he was trying to woo, and I ended up getting really really drunk and stealing her from him. That night I had my first and only one night stand ever. The next morning I woke up, kicked the girl out, and never talked to her again. It was so unlike me to do that. I'd like to think that I'm above a majority of guys who only think with their penises (I'll take a good brain over a good body any day when it comes to girls), but that night I bedded this utter skank. Also strange is that I'm a bit self-conscious about my body, so I'll really only have sex with girls I'm comfortable with - I can't do it on the fly with anyone. Good news, though, is me and the guy I stole the girl from are still good friends
blueskyday Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I've hurt plenty of people, and let myself get hurt, too. Having sex without caring about the person. Letting some guy use me in the same way. I realize now I simply wanted a connection with someone on an emotional and physical level, but I didn't know how to go about getting it from a person who was a good match. I think the reason we should spend a bit of time alone after a relationship ends is to make sure we know our deal breakers for next time around. That said, I met my current boyfriend at the same time I broke up with my last one. I recognized immediately that he is a good match for me, on all levels, but I kept my eyes open to the fact he might not be. Big lesson learned. Now, I am so happy I took a chance. Every mistake simply taught me what NOT to do...and in the right situation with the right person, you want to be a good person...
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