lonelynyc Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'm on day 4 of NC and in some ways this has been the worst, most panicky one. One reason is that I had a very disturbing dream that made last night mostly sleepless. I dreamt that my ex was calling me to ask me how I was doing, as if we were still together... what sucked was that the dream was so life-like. She didn't say anything bizarre, nothing strange happened. It felt like an extension of reality. For 5 minutes after waking up, I felt like she had actually called me, and all of the pain melted away for those wonderful 5 minutes. Of course, I take a look at the phone after a little while, and no one called. After discovering this, I crashed down worse than ever. Spent the rest of the night staring at the ceiling, wondering if I'd ever speak to her again. And this happened at like 3 AM. I was tired and severely depressed all day at work--made 4 visits to the bathroom to cry instead of 2 (like the day before). I don't know how I'm going to fall asleep tonight or thereafter. Yes, we all need sleep, but I felt like this dream just worsened my heartbreak. Has anyone else experienced this same trouble sleeping due to invasive, disturbing dreams? How long did it last for you? What did you do to establish a healthier sleep pattern and combat some of the horrible involuntary thoughts?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 yes it happens to a lot of people, myself included. I dreamt of my ex every night for about 2.5 months. The dreams stopped bothering me after about 2 weeks, and I think I had a few dreams like you described after those 2 weeks that did make me a little depressed but it didn't affect me all day. I'm just over 3 months out of my breakup and I'm proud to say I haven't dreamt of her for a little over 2 weeks. I didn't really do anything to improve my sleep or combat the dreams, although if you stay away from dairy before bed (cheese specifically) you could eliminate a lot of nightmarish dreams. Marshmallows also have a weird tendency of making your dreams weird (not nightmarish like cheese/dairy, just non-realistic). Hope this helps even though I don't have any way to actually help with the dreams, they will pass with time. Give it a few weeks and if the dreams are still bothering you like they are now then I would seek some sort of help.
MrJay22 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'm in the same boat as you, but this is the 2nd day NC. I had a lot of dreams about her and when I woke up in the morning your heart is like being torn apart and remember the good memories together. However, since the day 1 I started doing a lot of activities to keep me busy like gym and runnign to knock my self out to bed. I think this helps a lot. Also I spend more time with my real friends appreciating of having them. I also read a thread about this and saying "get the f*** out of my head" helps.
RodG Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'm on day 4 of NC and in some ways this has been the worst, most panicky one. One reason is that I had a very disturbing dream that made last night mostly sleepless. I dreamt that my ex was calling me to ask me how I was doing, as if we were still together... what sucked was that the dream was so life-like. She didn't say anything bizarre, nothing strange happened. It felt like an extension of reality. For 5 minutes after waking up, I felt like she had actually called me, and all of the pain melted away for those wonderful 5 minutes. Of course, I take a look at the phone after a little while, and no one called. After discovering this, I crashed down worse than ever. Spent the rest of the night staring at the ceiling, wondering if I'd ever speak to her again. And this happened at like 3 AM. I was tired and severely depressed all day at work--made 4 visits to the bathroom to cry instead of 2 (like the day before). I don't know how I'm going to fall asleep tonight or thereafter. Yes, we all need sleep, but I felt like this dream just worsened my heartbreak. Has anyone else experienced this same trouble sleeping due to invasive, disturbing dreams? How long did it last for you? What did you do to establish a healthier sleep pattern and combat some of the horrible involuntary thoughts? I still have the odd dream, but the most intense dreams (nightmares?) were for about 3 weeks after she dumped me. Most were bad, but some were good and I'd wake up and realize it was a dream. Waking up was always bad because the first thing that came to my mind was that 'she's gone'. All I did was give it some time. There isn't anything you can do. I feel for you man, just keep on at it. Try to 'fake it' until you 'make it'.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I also read a thread about this and saying "get the f*** out of my head" helps. HAHAHA... It helped me. I didn't really dream about her. I never really dream all that much to begin with (or I just don't remember my dreams). But, I'd think about her all the time. Especially after waking up in the morning. In the beginning, I was so used to her being there every day when I woke up that I'd turn over, looking for her or to put my arm around her and obviously she wasn't there. It drove me nuts for a while. The reason why that saying helps is because I was pissed off that I was always ruining my day thinking about her all te time and I just wanted it all to go away. So, I started saying that. I also read somewhere that you can try telling yourself that "they're not worth thinking about" or something along those lines and then try to clear your mind of any thoughts of them, so I created my own variation. I hope that helps.
mywreckedworld54 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I had the most vivid dream about my ex awhile back also. It started with us having sex on the floor of the house we used to live in. Then all of the sudden she started to change, kind of started looking sick, then loosing her teeth, then getting pale and skinny and then withering away until she died right there beside me. It was very creepy and I did not enjoy it at all.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I had the most vivid dream about my ex awhile back also. It started with us having sex on the floor of the house we used to live in. Then all of the sudden she started to change, kind of started looking sick, then loosing her teeth, then getting pale and skinny and then withering away until she died right there beside me. It was very creepy and I did not enjoy it at all. Hell, I would have enjoyed it if it was my ex... If only it wasn't a dream. Ahahahaha! I'm sick... I know!
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