brokendreamz Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 So, I'm new to this Internet dating, what is the ettiquette with it all, I mean going from chatting via email to actually meeting up?
Saxis Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 There is no etiquette. People vary so much that you'll have no idea what works from one to the next.
Bullet Proof Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 There is no etiquette. People vary so much that you'll have no idea what works from one to the next. Exactly. I don't e-mail or do the instant messaging but I know many do. I go from e-mails on the site, to phone number, usually to texting (although most on this forum will say NEVER text, CALL), but I like the texting, and then setting up a date.
dng Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 So, I'm new to this Internet dating, what is the ettiquette with it all, I mean going from chatting via email to actually meeting up? Ok, I dont know what you've been told, but I personnally dabled in it for a few months and its the absolute worst. Prepare for a concentrate of what you dont like about the other sex. Unreliable ones, unready ones, late people, boring people, people with serious issues. Its horrible. Have fun.
alexlakeman Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Email back and fourth 2-3 times....Mention you want to put a voice to pictures and emails, get phone #Make phone call or text (I've done it both ways)...Decide if there's chemistry and if you are going to call her back or not, and go from there.If you call her back, secure a first meeting shortly thereafter.
Saxis Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Its horrible. Have fun. It's not funny unless it's true! After 100 contact attempts or so, you'll figure out which ones are interested and which ones are just being nice or screwing with you.
carhill Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 If online interest appears mutual, set up a real life meet. Historically IME, and my experiences date back to the mid-90's, meeting online to meeting IRL shouldn't take more than a week or two. With my exW, it took a month but we lived about sixty miles apart so there were some logistics to deal with. Think of online dating as one method of meeting ostensibly single people. A virtual singles bar. One method of many which can be pursued.
dng Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 It's not funny unless it's true! After 100 contact attempts or so, you'll figure out which ones are interested and which ones are just being nice or screwing with you. Ha ha yeah. You'll setup dates with them and they will pull out at the last second with no explanation, lead you on for as long as they can, never commit and so on. Its really the absolute worst. Hopefully you're not into beautiful women/men who have their **** together.
carhill Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 For myself, the 'failure to launch' rate wasn't much different for online than IRL. IOW, for women I met in person, found interesting, asked out and they agreed, they 'flaked' at a rate little different than women met online. Of course, I was a younger age at a completely different time in online dating and my age group of women these days are far more likely to be mature in their social dealings, though I'm happy to report some are not. Good to see that some things haven't changed
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