Lilmisus Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Today, I slept in till about 1:30, and when I looked at my phone, I had a text from Mr. Cute Guy's good friend and coworker, asking if I'd give him a ride to his job to get his paycheck, then to deposit it, then to get a phone, then back to his job. Since I wasn't doing anything (Mr. Cute Guy never called), I agreed to it. During the ride, we talked mainly about relationships. Not just mine, but his relationship with my friend, and his past relationships. We opened up a lot to each other, and he confessed quite a bit about his relationships, more than I wanted to know. In return, we of course talked about Mr. Cute Guy. He told me "Look...he's my good friend, but you seem like a really sweet person...and I wouldn't typically tell a girl this cause he's my friend, and I don't want you telling him that I told you this...but let's just say...he's not relationship material." I told him that I pretty much figured that one out at the beginning, but I pushed him to tell me exactly what he was talking about. He told me that he's a great looking guy, and that he get's a lot of female attention (which I said "obviously" to), and he basically let me fill in the blank that he sleeps around a lot. I asked if he was a player, and he said that he wouldn't really call him a player, but he is up there. He told me that Mr. Cute Guy is a very honest guy though, that he's not the type of guy to lead a girl on to believe anything that isn't true or to think that he has different motives or intentions than he actually does. He said "he's not the type of guy to tell a girl she's beautiful, he just doesn't do that, and then sleep around with other girls. He'll tell a girl that he's not looking for a relationship, and that he is sleeping with others as well." When I told him that he was actually being really sweet to me, and that he had actually been playing all his cards right these past couple of weeks, he was actually pretty shocked. He said that that wasn't really like him, and that maybe I was different, and maybe he was really interested in me and looking for a relationship (especially with the whole comment he made about me having a good heart and him liking that). He also said that the way he talked about me, wasn't like he usually talks about girls at all, and that he could tell that he liked me with how he was always telling him about what we talked about and how we had plans and everything like that (he said it wasn't much, but it was different than how he typically talks about girls). After most of this conversation was through, my friend invited me to go to a party tonight at his friend's place. I told him that I didn't think I'd go, but he told me that Mr. Cute Guy was planning on going by there, and that's why he invited me. I told him that if he stands me up today, then I don't want anything to do with him after this, since I don't want to deal with a guy like that, to which he said he understood, and said he'd listen to see if he says anything else about me or if he hears anything. There was a lot more to it than that, but that's the gist of it. In the end, no matter how much more interested or into me he was than he typically is into girls, it doesn't change the fact that he hasn't called, and seems to be a lot like my ex was, apparently. My ex was a "recovering player" if you will, with how he would just use girls for sex, and then be done with them. Mr. Cute Guy seems sweeter than that, but it doesn't change the fact that I don't want to repeat the story I had with my ex. Plus, when you throw in the fact that I'm not interested in sex with anyone that I'm not in a relationship with, and that's all he seems to be looking for, then it just proves (once more) that this was just a dead end cause. Doesn't mean that I wouldn't be interested in getting to know him more if the opportunity arises (I'm not looking for serious, just fun right now), but it does mean that I see him for what he's worth now, thankfully.
sm1tten Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 This might be buried in one of your other threads, but what is your relationship with his friend that he would be telling you all this and asking you for rides? It just seemed kind of odd to me, unless he's a mutual friend or something. Just curious. But you are totally right in that none of this changes the fact that he hasn't called.
Author Lilmisus Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 This might be buried in one of your other threads, but what is your relationship with his friend that he would be telling you all this and asking you for rides? It just seemed kind of odd to me, unless he's a mutual friend or something. Just curious. But you are totally right in that none of this changes the fact that he hasn't called. I just met him three weeks ago when I met Mr. Cute Guy at their job. He's my good friend's boyfriend, and I've given him a couple rides before. I think just the fact that I'm friends with his girlfriend and he's friends with "my guy" makes it to where he felt comfortable opening up to me. Plus, I know his son's mother from high school, and I've heard a lot about him before I even met him. But, I give rides to anyone who asks, if I can, so it's nothing out of the ordinary for me to get a call asking to pick someone up, regardless of how well I know them.
Author Lilmisus Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 Oh wait, you answered. Nevermind. I saw your comment before you changed it Just to clear the air: there is nothing going on with the friend, and nothing will ever happen between him and I. It's funny though, because today he asked if I'd like to be his roommate come August Just seeing y'all ask what was going on with him and remembering that (though it's cause he's desperate for a roommate, no other reason), honestly makes me laugh. But nah, drug dealers aren't my type.
Richard Friedman Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 What a ****ing scumbag. With friends like this a guy doesn't need enemies. This is the second time in the last week I've read about a so-called friend ratting a buddy out to his interest. If he's helping you, who it seems he doesn't know that well, at the expense of his good friend I doubt his intentions are so pure. Most likely he's just jealous. Probably finds you more attractive than his current gf and is butthurt friend is gonna get a "shinier toy." It's just a not-so-subtle attempt at sabotage. Just a damn shame. I used to think men were above this, that they did not stoop to this kind of conniving behavior. Guess it's becoming more acceptable for men to act like women..
Author Lilmisus Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 What a ****ing scumbag. With friends like this a guy doesn't need enemies. This is the second time in the last week I've read about a so-called friend ratting a buddy out to his interest. If he's helping you, who it seems he doesn't know that well, at the expense of his good friend I doubt his intentions are so pure. Most likely he's just jealous. Probably finds you more attractive than his current gf and is butthurt friend is gonna get a "shinier toy." It's just a not-so-subtle attempt at sabotage. Just a damn shame. I used to think men were above this, that they did not stoop to this kind of conniving behavior. Guess it's becoming more acceptable for men to act like women.. He told my friend (his girlfriend) at the very beginning of this, that he was the type to sleep with a girl on the first date, and to warn me, but besides that, he's just been trying to help his buddy out this entire time. I think though, that when I agreed to give him a ride, and told him how badly my ex screwed me over, that he probably felt bad for me, and realized that I didn't want to get hurt again - especially in anywhere near the same way. Plus, when you throw in there that his girlfriend told him to help me out (her good friend), rather than help him out, that it just helped him decide to tell me the truth rather than have me think that his buddy was a saint (which I knew he wasn't). But, if this is his way of getting me to himself, or screwing up his friend's chances with me, then he didn't even need to try. He knew how he didn't call me, and he also knew that it was bugging me to death. If anything, he may have helped his friend out a bit by telling me that he seems more interested in me than others he's dated in the past.
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