rolie Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 My partner cheated on me when i was 7 months pregnant, with a prostitute. he confessed a week later. my baby is now 5 months old and i cant even begin to forgive him. There is still so much anger in considering how much i gave him. I chose him over my family left my hometown and moved to a new country all for him. i cant say i was the perfect girlfriend considering my hormones but i was devoted and now i feel worthless and stupid for staying. He has always been good to me prior.. what im saying is how do I move pass this, and is it possible (those who have experience this) to rekindle our relationship?
BrighterDaze Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I have suffered through a cheating spouse before too. It was several years ago, but I never forgot the pain or humiliation. I think you have to decide what you want from your relationship. If you want to work on it, then definitely seek counseling or at least a recommended book on infidelity. If you find that it is too hard to forgive him, then it may be best to end the relationship. I wouldn't make a rash decision on leaving though. He is probably a good guy who did a dumb thing. Talk with him. Try to understand what happened. Something was missing or lost in your relationship. What was/is it? Also look at his behavior. Is he remorseful? Does he love you? What is he going to do now? Learn as much as you can about him, you, and the relationship. THEN make a good decision for you. Also, look at your behavior and what you can do to improve the relationship. The fact that it was a hooker means that he was not looking for love. That is a good thing. His sexual desire may be more easily remedied. Good Luck.
Kidd Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I recommend the book, "Surviving An Affair". It's kinda prerequisite reading if you're considering reconciling. Some of the more "experienced" posters find it controversial but it's been the building block for my wife and I as we reconcile. These forums can also help but be wary; there are many bitter people on here (for good reason) that basically never support reconciliation. They will try to convince you that you are flawed if you do. Read, learn, make a decision (perhaps the toughest part) and then move forward. If he is truly remorseful, it is possible to have a stronger marriage than before but most would say that the old marriage is dead and you have to decide if you want to rebuild a new one. Just my humble opinion.
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