little_bear Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 almost a week ago I posted this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t285721/ about a guy who drunkenly confessed how much he likes me, my laugh is the cutest, I'm the prettiest girl in the office etc.. So, he still hasn't asked me out or even asked for my number. I want to ask him out but now I'm afraid hes not even interested and I will just look stupid. Hes sent me a couple Facebook messages but nothing major. I get the impression from talking to him at work that he is really insecure which is so weird because hes really attractive/smart/funny. Should I just give up on this or am I being too impatient here? I think I've shown I'm interested. Could he just be too insecure to ask me out?
Author little_bear Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 I try to be where I know he is. I knew he was in the cafeteria so I went down there for no reason and sat with him. His tie was a bit crooked so I leaned over the table and fixed it for him. I sent him a stupid FB message about a funny pic he posted which probably just made me look stupid. Then I invited him on a group outing and said "are you gonna come? you really should.." trying to stress that I wanted him there. I smile at him constantly. Not crazy person smiles but nice flirty smiles and I laugh at things he says. Are these not good enough things?
vsmini Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 He's either A - not really interested and just loves a good flirt B - too shy to do it. If it's B - just ask him out yourself.
ruffster Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Say something like, "Hey Ken, I'm interested in you taking me out on a date." then see if he gives you positive vibes. Then go from there. It's a risk you have to take to know for sure how he feels. I know if you asked me that, and I was interested in you, I would say, "meh, ok" then I would ask you out on a date right there. First dates are no biggy. Relationships are a whole different story.
musemaj11 Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 This guy sounds like the very shy and insecure type. With this one you will need to be the more dominant partner. Its up to you.
DuskCrush Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 little bear...i suggest you take a one month break from trying to figure this guy out. He is probably sensing your expectation and it's making him hesitant. So relax, take up a new hobby and try not to focus on him..Also if he tries to talk to you or anything ...just be charming and open. I figure when u stop caring then he'll make some moves.
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