ON MY OWN Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Smaller school Cliques catty/immature/agressive women who follow one another Apologize for the length, please read all & thank you. REALLY need some feedback! Facts-- 1) Was friends with one who was originally nice. 2) I sat with her and some others for part of the day. 3) She calls me up one day and explains 2 other women want to move from the table. She got closer to them AFTER we have been friends for around 8 months already. ( I do NOT have a problem with that ). 4) I say dont worry I can move. ( I originally was the last one to join--which her and I discussed during phone call ). 5) She offers to move. She is closer than I am with the other 2. I told her I would move so she could still be with her friends. 6) She lets me move without incident. I explain to one of the others. She had brought up table was crowded. ( however there are other tables with same number that do NOT have that behaviour going on at those tables. 7) I have made friends with another one. 8) We are being stared/glared at on a daily basis. They are strategically placed around the room which have to admit makes it a pain due to my strong intuition I can "feel" it. Dont let on though. 9) I wasnt invited by a girl we ride with to another campus for a special class. She has been nice to me and my other new friend all along. However she is heavily involved with the 5 or so others that are problematic. 10) She invited them to a camping trip a while back. 11) My new friend realizes I have not mentioned anything about the trip and askes driver. Driver says she had already invited the others and didnt realize there was a tif and didnt want to make it worse so did not invite me. 12) The other girl is going to start driving herself to the class and said I am always welcome to ride with her. Questions are----- 1) How do I gracefully back out of commitment with the driver without getting her tiffed at me? This is all private and a very cliqueish school. One of the followers ride with her. My new friend and I are really not wanted there anyhow. 2) How come others that dont even know the facts give us dirty looks daily (when it was not their situation to begin with) 3) Do I go to a dean or just wait for it to die down. Remember it is a private campus. I am ignoring it. I figure if I dont feed into it....they will grow tired of being crabby and ugly-faced ultimately effecting t thier own moods...not mine.....people that are like that arent worth hanging around. ( what is bothering me is we have some time left in there and make days harder when you have to sit in the middle of the drama for many hours at a time)<-----How does one cope with that?? Thanks to all my LS friends:) for your insights and or questions and any general feedback from experiences etc on best way to handle. I surround myself with positive/good things in my life and am having trouble coping/figuring out a best solution for me. My new friend was in tears and is always wanting to belong. I have my own friends( most 18 years or longer which are REAL friends) and my own life and am less worried about who is invited where, dont want to be part of a drama filled cliqueish based scene anyhow. Just want peace. OMO ( Non-drama lover, lol)
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