Ally-65 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 How many "dumpers" add on, (for extra effect?) I hope we can still be friends. Why do they say that? They see us at our weakest point, and say: Can we be friends? For gods sake, isn't that just something that is said to ease the guilt. If we are friends with them, then we can't be that bad?? So they don't feel what they did is bad? B.....it, they made us feel like this, broke our hearts, so no, they don't get to "stay friends", just so they feel better.
69ways Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I tried to be friends for 4 months, s.... her , i got many friends and friends dont break my heart:D
radiodarcy Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I tried to be friends for 4 months, s.... her , i got many friends and friends dont break my heart:D true true! what kind of friend kicks you to the curb and then turns around and says "oh, but we can still be friends" it's a demotion really. i tried being friends with the ex for a few months after he dumped me. all he wanted was to keep me around as a confidant and ego booster while he went back on the dating scene. eff that! it really is just so they can ease their guilt and have someone to fall back on.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 B.....it, they made us feel like this, broke our hearts, so no, they don't get to "stay friends", just so they feel better. That's why I tend to fill the person in throughout the relationship. I let them know that I don't do the "friends" thing after the relationship is over. It just doesn't work. Regardless, my ex tried it after we broke up anyway. Before she had a chance to make herself feel any better, I once again told her "I'm not going to try being friends... I don't do the friends thing. It never works". That was one of the last things I said to my ex other than "don't contact me anymore". Well that among other things. Lastly, I had to let her know that I wasn't down to play games. Needless to say, we've been NC since I love it
shortee143 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 [quote name=radiodarcy. i tried being friends with the ex for a few months after he dumped me. all he wanted was to keep me around as a confidant and ego booster while he went back on the dating scene. eff that! it really is just so they can ease their guilt and have someone to fall back on.[/quote] Ugh I feel ya- I def hate that my ex know's I'm his fallback and that I'm still here and love him. I did the ex sex thing a few times in the 3 months we have been apart- all it was for him was pleasure, for me, it just felt terrible after! I see him quite often, I just hate that he knows I'm there, I guess I need to stop acting like I give a crap when I am around him! Not to mention, he is dating others, so I just get to sit back and watch....with him knowing I'm in the background ughhh. I hate being his ego boost..so from now on, I realllly need to try the nonchalance thing, even when I see him with his new girl!!
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