TheVSilent Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I have been in counseling for the past 2 weeks about my depression and anger problems in my relationships. I have to say it really really helps a lot, and she said things that really opened my eyes. The fact that you can be in love with somebody and never like them, it just made me take a step back and realize the situation I was in with my ex. I suggest if you have insurance or means to pay for it, it is a very good thing.
Ally-65 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I live in Denmark, so we have a different system. I just get a referral from the GP and get therapy free. (Well, it's why we pay so much tax!!) Anyhow, I can totally relate to your sentence - being in love with someone but not liking them. That is exactly how I realise I now felt with my recent ex. As much as it hurts like hell. I have anger issues from childhood. Never dealt with and I guess some how they are probably having a negative affect on my relationships. Especially since the most meaningful ones have ended for the same reasons ...... ME!
Mack05 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I have been in counseling for the past 2 weeks about my depression and anger problems in my relationships. I have to say it really really helps a lot, and she said things that really opened my eyes. The fact that you can be in love with somebody and never like them, it just made me take a step back and realize the situation I was in with my ex. I suggest if you have insurance or means to pay for it, it is a very good thing. I personally feel this is something everyone should do if you can afford it. But it's probably most beneficial, when you are going through a hard personal crisis. As long as you are 100% honest with your counsellor and not try to kid yourself and him/her it is always a very positive experience. I should have gone years ago in truth, but I looked at it as a sign of weakness (nonsense). Plus I was in total self denial, so it would not have been much use to me. It takes a lot of courage to admit you have problems that you are not sure how to fix.
londonbloke Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Agreed, I've just started counselling, not just to deal with the breakup but also to clear my mind of anything that might hinder me from moving forwards personally. When you spend so much time with a partner you can't help but lose some of yourself and counselling is a great way to help find it again. Now if only all the dumpers would get it while IN the relationship then they wouldn't be so flaky
Author TheVSilent Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 You were in love with your ex but didn't like him? I didn't like my ex either. It was a her, I did like certain things about her, but I was really mean to her, and we didn't have a whole 'lot in common. Come to think of it, not anything in common really, but I did love her. My counselor was telling me the feeling of love can do crazy things to the brain, and make you forget all about the things that made you you before you met that person. I agree, losing yourself in someone, I did that with her, and she probably did that with me. I have issues to work on as well, I put people down for the sake of being bored, but it is helping me.
Author TheVSilent Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 You were in love with your ex but didn't like him? I didn't like my ex either. I have counseling too cuz I too have issues to work on. In my ex relationship I was cold too, because I didn't like him but THOUGHT I loved him. I didn't wanan be with him and I felt trapped, and those feelings of hopelessness turned into feelings of hate and anger. I've heard people say, you have to like a person more than you love them. It is really weird I know, but it takes a fool to learn that love don't love nobody. Sounds exactly like me. I felt trapped, but didn't want to lose that feeling of love, but didn't want to be with that person so I bashed her until she left. Then when she left I got all emotional and depressed and wanted her back, it is a crazy cycle.
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