nkerenia Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 In my previous post, I explained how I was recently on the west coast visiting family, and we went to a casino several nights while I was there. I met an employee there and on my last night at the casino, I gave him my number and told him to call me, and that I left in two days. He told me he wished I had talked to him sooner, and that he was off work the next day. I never heard from him. I'm thinking it's probably because he didn't want to get involved with someone on the opposite coast. Someone also mentioned that it's frowned upon in the gaming industry for employees to date patrons, but I don't consider myself much of a patron considering I don't live there and don't go regularly. The reason I am sweating this is because I am going to be moving there this fall for grad school and I would like to know someone else when I get there. This was not set in stone when I met him, so I never told him this. I now would like to get in touch with him and tell him this, and see if he'd still like to get to know each other. The problem is, I have no way to contact him. Someone suggested sending a letter to him at the casino, explaining the situation but I worry that would be weird. Would you be flattered if you were in his shoes? Someone else mentioned sending a facebook message to one of his co-workers asking about him to see if he's on facebook. I was able to locate some of his potential co-workers by doing a search. I worry this might freak him out too. I could call the casino and ask for him but I hate the phone and I don't want to get him in trouble. And of course whatever I do, there's always the fear that he didn't call me when I was still in town simply because he was no longer interested. But based on our interaction, I don't think that is the case. How would you attempt to get in touch with him, and if you were him, would you be flattered by this or freaked out??? Thanks!
Star Gazer Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Put yourself in his shoes. If he was interested at all, he would have called. He didn't. Any further attempts to contact him, especially via the means you're describing, is likely to creep him out, honestly. You'll have plenty of opportunities to make friends once you move out here.
Nexus One Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'd (probably) be flattered by your attempt to get in touch with me, but that feeling of being flattered wouldn't mean I'm into you. When I wouldn't be attracted to you, then I would probably think of a response to let you down gently. Also keep in mind that casino's might have certain policies for workers regarding dating clients/customers. He could potentially lose his job if he got caught dating a client/customer. (depending on his company's policy) The reason I am sweating this is because I am going to be moving there this fall for grad school and I would like to know someone else when I get there. I'm not following you here. Do you mean you just want "someone", just because it's convenient when you get there? It almost sounds as if it doesn't matter who it is, could be a random guy, as long as he's available when you get there, because that would be convenient. I'm not saying that that is what you meant, but that's how it came across. Perhaps you should elaborate on that part of your post.
BetheButterfly Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 If you move there, why not just go sometime to wear he works and say hi? See what happens.
Bullet Proof Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I would be freaked out. He had the chance to call - he didn't. Like someone else said - if you are still interested him once you move there, drop by and say Hello.
GildedLily Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Are you serious? Are you sure you are in grad school; something, in fact everything about your post screams young tween! Think about it; how are you going to call a casino and reach an employee? have you every seen how many people work in a casino?. Don't do anything more. You need to know someone when you come for "grad school" ever heard of meetup.com?
DuskCrush Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Hey...I think you should just visit the casino when you get there...definitely...that way you don't have to wonder about it. Also you could better judge his reaction to you and seeing if there is a chance to date or not.
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