93TheHitStick Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Texting this real cute girl. Strong 9/10. My friend gave me her number. Anyway we were texting for like 2 hours straight having a pretty good convo. When her height came up and she said she was only 5'3. Convo went like this: Her: Nah cuz i'm almost 5'4 Me: Wow that is prety short. Her: Haha its not that short Me: Yah. You're like almost a midget lol. Her: No i'm not lol Me: Its cool. If i was that short i would lie to myself too. Her: Haha whatever im about to fall asleep ill talk to you later goodnight Me: Lol goodnight Its like three in the morning here so idk. She could have actually been tired. But do you think i may have taken it to far and offended her? Like i said she is really cute don't wanna ruin my chances with her. Should i text her tomorrow? Or wait a few days to see if she will text me first?
Damien Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Dunno about you but I'd find it pretty rude to say something like that But I think you're kinda safe, the girl herself didn't seem like she took it bad at all and just joked about it. I don't see the need to wait a few days, good luck
OldOnTheInside Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Her: Haha whatever im about to fall asleep ill talk to you later goodnight If she was really p*ssed you would've got a different reply. I dunno, some women can handle jokes about their physical appearance better than others. Not a particularly prudent idea to taunt them though. Unless you enjoy a fist to the groin.
Teknoe Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 If she was really p*ssed you would've got a different reply. I dunno, some women can handle jokes about their physical appearance better than others. Not a particularly prudent idea to taunt them though. Unless you enjoy a fist to the groin. +1 I say you took the joke one text too long. It was ok ribbing, until it got tedious and somewhat insultful (is that a word lol). You overmilked it, man. Next time, stop while you're ahead. Luckily for you, she stopped you but doesn't appear TOO offended. Consider yourself lucky and watch your tongue (or texting fingers) more carefully next time. There definitely is such a thing as carrying a joke or insult on far too long where it becomes flat out annoying and insensitive.
Teknoe Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Her: Nah cuz i'm almost 5'4 Me: Wow that is prety short. Her: Haha its not that short Me: Yah. You're like almost a midget lol. Her: No i'm not lol Me: Its cool. If i was that short i would lie to myself too. OK, on closer review, WTH, man? Dude, she's almost 5'4" That's not TOO bad for a female. What nationality is she? If she's Asian, then that's quite good. Even if she were African American, 5'4" is nowhere near midget territory. When you bust on a girl make sure it's within reasonable bounds... i.e. 5'0" I'd classify as grounds for ribbing a girl for being almost like a midget but 5'4"? that's a reeeeal stretch, man. she knows it. it just makes you look bad, you're finding ways to be a dick and that's not cool. it ain't playful flirting, this is just being a dick looking for the slightest thing you can stretch out to bust her on.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 OK, on closer review, WTH, man? Dude, she's almost 5'4" That's not TOO bad for a female. What nationality is she? If she's Asian, then that's quite good. Even if she were African American, 5'4" is nowhere near midget territory. When you bust on a girl make sure it's within reasonable bounds... i.e. 5'0" I'd classify as grounds for ribbing a girl for being almost like a midget but 5'4"? that's a reeeeal stretch, man. she knows it. it just makes you look bad, you're finding ways to be a dick and that's not cool. it ain't playful flirting, this is just being a dick looking for the slightest thing you can stretch out to bust her on. Lmao. Take a friggin chill pill. I am 6'6. And i had just told her that. That was why i was saying she was a midget. Like she was short compared to me. I realize 5'3 is average height. Therefore it should have been obvious that i was just joking around. Nobodies trying to be a dick its called teasing.
OldOnTheInside Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I am 6'6. And i had just told her that. That was why i was saying she was a midget. Like she was short compared to me. Makes the fist to the groin so much easier.
Teknoe Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Lmao. Take a friggin chill pill. I am 6'6. And i had just told her that. That was why i was saying she was a midget. Like she was short compared to me. I realize 5'3 is average height. Therefore it should have been obvious that i was just joking around. Nobodies trying to be a dick its called teasing. Yes, she's like a midget compared to you, but read your text again. You wrote it like she's a midget for a girl. And at nearly 5'4", she ain't. Bad delivery on your part. If you texted her you were 6'6" so she's like a midget to you that'd make sense.
rafallus Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 You should have suggested that her shortness is cute and adorable.
dline82 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Its not really a huge deal, its easy to get carried away with texts. If you're worried about her being offended, just apologize to her, say something like listen, I apologize if I offended you the other night, I was just joking around and got a little carried away....
oldguy Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I think you where tired, maybe bored, but defiantly a bit rude to the girl. And ya, you ticked her off.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I initially had read the texts opposite, thinking the roles were reversed. My advice was going to be "this girl really doesn't like you, she's obviously turned off by your short height and was making fun of you and trying to ditch the conversation after she found out." So there you go, now you know what someone else may have told her you thought.
FinOuch Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 5'4" is short? o_O Nahhhh...I'm slightly under average for a woman at 5'5". (or maybe I just tell myself that) Anyways, to answer your question...I seriously doubt she cares. Especially given the fact that you're so tall. *tries not to make a Jolly Green Giant comment* One of my ex's used to tease me all the time about my height. While I was still into him, I didn't care and it was easily forgivable. Just good hearted fun. But when I had stopped having feelings for him is when it started p*ssing me off. So the simplest answer to your question is that it really depends on how she feels about you. If she likes you, she'll take it as a joke. If she doesn't, you likely offended her. If you're unsure, it's probably best to just ask her and apologize.
TheFamilyMan Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Agreed. Just play it off as a joke and that her height doesn't matter at all. You're fine. And the term was insulting haha +1 I say you took the joke one text too long. It was ok ribbing, until it got tedious and somewhat insultful (is that a word lol). You overmilked it, man. Next time, stop while you're ahead. Luckily for you, she stopped you but doesn't appear TOO offended. Consider yourself lucky and watch your tongue (or texting fingers) more carefully next time. There definitely is such a thing as carrying a joke or insult on far too long where it becomes flat out annoying and insensitive.
thehead Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 You should have let up after the midget line. Playful teasing is fine but don't drag it out and always follow it up with reassurance or a compliment. Or else you just come off as being jerky.
2sunny Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 just the fact that you make ANY condescending comment to someone you are supposed to show loving behavior to - is a concern. i think it's with a purpose - and it's not ideal. most wonderful men would be saying "you are just right the way you are" so - there you have it - you gave evidence of your character... with intent to be mean.
FinOuch Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 just the fact that you make ANY condescending comment to someone you are supposed to show loving behavior to - is a concern. i think it's with a purpose - and it's not ideal. most wonderful men would be saying "you are just right the way you are" so - there you have it - you gave evidence of your character... with intent to be mean. Wow...I think that's a bit harsh. Extremely so, actually. There's a huge difference between playful teasing (which is far from unheard of in flirtation) and an "intention to be mean"!
Author 93TheHitStick Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 I think you are a player type bro, you said she is a solid 9 which means a weak 10. you tried to take down her self esteem some so you can conquer her. Well i think it back fired. She is not stupid enough to fall for this trick. I say go for it, it would be fun to see you crash and burn. A girl with many options not gonna waist her time on these silly games. K so you are a virgin though? I tried to lower her self esteem? Why would i do that? As a tall guy one of the sexiest things to me is a short girl. If a girl is short then i tease her about her height because i like it. I wouldn't tease a girl about something that i didn't like. Like hey "your teeth are super crooked and gross haha" No i wouldn't do that because i'm not trying to lower anyones self esteem. Maybe if you talked to more girls you would realize that you don't have to kiss there feet to get them to like you. just the fact that you make ANY condescending comment to someone you are supposed to show loving behavior to - is a concern. i think it's with a purpose - and it's not ideal. most wonderful men would be saying "you are just right the way you are" so - there you have it - you gave evidence of your character... with intent to be mean. Did i not say in the original post that it was a joke? Maybe a bad one but a joke none the less. Obviously i wasn't trying to offend her or else i wouldn't be asking this question right? You people really need to stop assuming that the only way to talk to a girl is to tell her how beautiful she is. Maybe you do that but i sure as hell don't. Oh and should i text her first? The reason i don't want too is because she has a good attitude. Shes not a mean girl so if i text her and she doesn't want to talk she won't tell me she will just start a conversation. Don't wanna talk to a girl who doesn't really wanna talk to me. So would it be better for me to wait for her?
rafallus Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 K so you are a virgin though? I tried to lower her self esteem? Why would i do that? As a tall guy one of the sexiest things to me is a short girl. If a girl is short then i tease her about her height because i like it. I wouldn't tease a girl about something that i didn't like. Like hey "your teeth are super crooked and gross haha" No i wouldn't do that because i'm not trying to lower anyones self esteem. Maybe if you talked to more girls you would realize that you don't have to kiss there feet to get them to like you. There is a difference between teasing and insulting, and it looks like you're crossing it. If girls get cold on you after your banter, take the hint you're going too far, no matter, how well you think you signalize you're just fooling around. That goes quadruple for text, when no body language is involved.
alethean Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I wouldn't have been offended by it if I already know that you're doing it as a joke and not to be an a**hole. I know some people like to tease (ok, maybe I'm one of those people), so it doesn't usually offend me.
Lil1 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Lmao. Take a friggin chill pill. I am 6'6. And i had just told her that. That was why i was saying she was a midget. Like she was short compared to me. I realize 5'3 is average height. Therefore it should have been obvious that i was just joking around. Nobodies trying to be a dick its called teasing. Holy Moly you're freakishly tall in my book! LOL! I wouldn't stress too much about her being offended, just to be on the safe side it may be a good idea to apologize to her when you see her or speak with her next time and remind her of the reasons why you DO like her so much;)
Confusedalways Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I am slightly taller than that and guys who were your height have made the same flirty comments to me, I wasn't offended at all. Looks like playful flirty banter to me, I would never take offense. I am 23, which being that young I think plays into that.
OldOnTheInside Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 K so you are a virgin though? Maybe if you talked to more girls you would realize that you don't have to kiss there feet to get them to like you. Looks like you are trying to lower somebody's self-esteem. Good job proving their point.
sm1tten Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I don't think it was that bad; I'm barely 5'5" and can take a joke though.
kalikula Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I think it was just playful teasing. I wouldn't apologize for it or bring it up again.. That's when maybe she'd get sick of it. I doubt she's truly offended. If she does mention it just say that you think it's actually cute.
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