charlieyost Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Broke up close to 2 months now. Been on limited contact for almost 1.5 months. Did the begging and pleading at first, then I decided to go into No Contact. Received 4days ago: I just wanted to pop a hello and tell you that I still care alot for you and I hope you are doing okay. You are still dear to me and I miss you, and I hope this distance between us will eventually disappear. Anyways, please take care of yourself, eat well, please meet your friends soon cos they are worried about you I think, and please don't tire yourself out in any way. I did not reply. I got this this morning: Funny how from strangers we become friends then back to being strangers again... Should I reply her? Its her birthday next week, so I thought I'll not reply and just send her a birthday text.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Just stay NC, and don't do anything for her birthday that's an unimportant day for you now. Don't use her birthday as a way to break no contact it's just asking for more heartache.
Crisis Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Agreed with heart, that day is no longer important and if you are over her, she shouldn't mean anything in your life. Unless she's asking to see you or WANTING to see you and you feel as if your over her and you want to HUMOR her, stay NC. Won't lie though, if it were me right now, I'd send a card via mail. That's as far as I'd go, but I'm still a month out of the break up and a week out of NC, so I am not entirely over my ex.
Author charlieyost Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 I'm not over her. I still wanna be with her. But I think she wants a friendship more than a relationship. Thats why I ain't replying her.
Crisis Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Then NC is the way to go. She may get more desperate or may just stop putting forth effort. Weird I have to say though it must have to feel to receive a text out of no where, wishing that you are taking care of yourself. Must have knocked you socks off, gave you a chill, and you must have been like "WTH?" I know I would be. Hmm I don't know, I think I would go with Heart with this one if your not over her.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Broke up close to 2 months now. Been on limited contact for almost 1.5 months. Did the begging and pleading at first, then I decided to go into No Contact. Received 4days ago: I just wanted to pop a hello and tell you that I still care alot for you and I hope you are doing okay. You are still dear to me and I miss you, and I hope this distance between us will eventually disappear. Anyways, please take care of yourself, eat well, please meet your friends soon cos they are worried about you I think, and please don't tire yourself out in any way. I did not reply. I got this this morning: Funny how from strangers we become friends then back to being strangers again... Should I reply her? Its her birthday next week, so I thought I'll not reply and just send her a birthday text. It doesn't sound like she wants anything serious anyways. It appears as if by saying "I hope this distance between us will eventually disappear", she means that she hopes the two of you can be friends at some point in time. She may care about you, but it doesn't appear as if she cares enough to get back into a relationship with you. She's just being friendly. Don't put yourself through any more anguish than you already have to go though. Leave it be, heal and perhaps one day when you think about her and you have no feelings anymore when you do, the two of you can try a friendship.
RodG Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'm not over her. I still wanna be with her. But I think she wants a friendship more than a relationship. Thats why I ain't replying her. Yeah, no response. There isn't much to reply to anyway. Hey, at least your ex still thinks about you. I guess that is a start. NC until you're over it and don't care anymore, or until she can't stand it anymore and wants you back (not as friends!!)
Author charlieyost Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 Yeah I agree with that. She's being friendly, she wants to be friends, and that isn't what I want. Doubt I'll reply her. If she wants me back, she will keep trying.
RodG Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Yeah I agree with that. She's being friendly, she wants to be friends, and that isn't what I want. Doubt I'll reply her. If she wants me back, she will keep trying. Come here if you ever have urges to talk to her!! Don't break NC. It appears you hold some of the power, keep it that way.
Author charlieyost Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 Surprisingly I have no desires to contact her. I think I don't want to suffer another heartache. Ain't sure what she will say if I reply her. Better to be safe than sorry. I miss her very much thou, but I'm not letting her know.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Come here if you ever have urges to talk to her!! Don't break NC. It appears you hold some of the power, keep it that way. Yes sir... I've got your back. We all do.
sd89 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'm going through something similar. She showed interest then stopped, but I've remained:bunny: my limited contact. She also has a Bday coming up and I'm not sure if I should call her cause I see us getting back together but that she needs time. I still think I wont call on her bday since she will be expecting it, maybe make her think and realize that you aren't there for her anymore. And it might make her realize her mistake as its a pretty important day for her.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I'm going through something similar. She showed interest then stopped, but I've remained:bunny: my limited contact. She also has a Bday coming up and I'm not sure if I should call her cause I see us getting back together but that she needs time. I still think I wont call on her bday since she will be expecting it, maybe make her think and realize that you aren't there for her anymore. And it might make her realize her mistake as its a pretty important day for her. The same thing happened to me. It happened to many of us on these forums. They show a little interest and then back off again. I wouldn't try to contact her on her birthday. She isn't in your life anymore. She's moved on. You owe her nothing at this point. My exes birthday is coming up at the end of this month as well. I'm not going to waste my time. It's not going to change anything anyways. Perhaps by not calling her, it may initiate something, but I wouldn't count on it. If they don't give a s**t, there's nothing you're going to be able to do to make her care. Besides, I'm sure you've tried everything at this point to get her back. I know I have. So, there's nothing more you can do other than give them the space they need, not for them as much as it is for you to move on and heal.
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