If it werent for bad luck Id have none at all! Please help!

[Smalls]

Where do I start? UMMMMM, i moved to a far away town away from family and friends to be by my man, I got into a small car accident and the guy pulled some type of insurance fraud, lost my license, then got arrested for an emmisions test, then got my license back, then my car blew up, now im 14 weeks pregnant, dr appointment came back positive for abnormal cells (cervical cancer), my boss has me on probation because they say "im not doing my best" etc. My bf is not there for me at all. Everything is him him him. We never talk about me or how I feel or how Im handeling all of this. Ive been with him for a lil over 7 months now! THATS IT! Im 22 and hes 23. I try to talk to him about communication but he wont listen. His tv shows are more important. I cant deal anymore. I dont know what to do or how to handle it. I am about to give up. There has to be a way for me to handle this or this stress. Im begging for ideas before I just leave! Please help! thank you!

[Stone]

It will all be o.k. dear, You need to get a handle on your relationship now since you are pregnant. ( I have been through what you are going through with your b/f) and it's hard. You want to work things out for the baby ect. I know.

 

Men take pregnancy diffrent than us, maby he needs some time to process this.

Maby seek some councling or something. Being pregnant and not being sure of your relationship is scary but it will all work out. (I was a single mother in my Very early twenties it's hard but not impossible!)

 

As far as cervical cancer and other stuff, Just keep hope and stay healthy! Maby you should take a leave of absence from you job " if you can afford it" untill everything seems to be a little more clear!

 

I was in the same situation as you moved from my faimly ect. Maby it's time to go home. Is your faimly supportive?

 

I send you my regards, And will keep you in my prayers.

 

Heahter

[HokeyReligions]

Do you have family you can move back with? What about your parents? You need to be around family who love you and will help you. Don't worry about the bf - if he's not there for you then you are better off not wasting your energy on him.

 

Follow-up with your doctors. Some cervical cancers are easily treatable and won't interfere with your pregnancy. If you are on suspension from work and you are having medical problems, you may be able to just take a medical leave of absence and that may help you. Also, does your company have any kind of EAP? Some counseling might help you to deal with everything and not feel so overwhelmed. Really, you need to be with your family and in a loving and nurturing environment.

 

Take things one at a time. Your bf is a loser. Don't worry about his feelings and just count him out of your life. You may need to talk with an attorney about his financial responsibilities as the baby's father.

 

Address the work issue by itself. Find out about the Employee Assistance Program. Find out what it would tale to get long- or short-term disability from your job because of medical reasons and talk to your doctor about giving you a medical leave of abscence 'perscription' based on the criteria from your job.

 

Call your family. Ask them if you can come home to them. Ask for their support during all of this. If you absolutly cannot move back with them, is there a close family member (mom or sister or aunt...) who can come and stay with you indefinately, or until you do move back with them?

 

 

Note: I see Stone got her post in while I was writing mine! Similar advice too!

[Smalls]

I have plenty of family and friends to help me. But I keep hearing that maybe he needs time to cope and that maybe I am being too hard. To me Im like "im going through lots just o be by him, he can show a lil respect" thank you for the advice.

 

I appreciate!

[Stone]

If you have plenty of faimly and freinds to help you go to them. In the long run they will be the one watching the baby when you need to work, sleep, ect. your faimly will always be there and for your child, it needs to be sorrounded with people who love and cherish you and that baby!

 

So if he decides to grow up and want's to be a part of you and the baby's life tell hin where to find you.

 

( this really reminds me of myself 4 years ago) .......trust me you need your faimly now... He will have to make some adjustments, you need to worry about your health and your support system!