Feelsgoodman Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Seriously! Ever girl I've ever been with has begged me for sex during her period. It's me that is grossed out and then suggesting only if it can be anal. I don't fancy having sex with a woman on a period either (even if it's anal - I just don't like the idea of being anywhere near that area when it's bleeding...) However, my needs are always satisfied through other means (i.e. blowjob). In fact, this seems to be standard procedure when a woman is on a period. The fact that the OP does not want to engage in any kind of sexual activity at all is kind of weird.
Arabella Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Make sure to tell him so, maybe he'll be smart enough to leave in advance. Funny you should say that... we read this thread together and he said to me "kick me out if I ever pull that crap on you". c.) oral? Is that not even considered? Men's pleasure doesn't matter right? Again, why would any man want to be with you? Please enlighten me. No, I don't feel that's an option in this particular situation. If she doesn't feel like getting sexual because of the discomfort caused by her period, why should she force herself to give him a blowjob just to please him? Plus, she wouldn't even be getting any pleasure out of it herself. Like I said, if he wants one-sided pleasure, jerk off. She shouldn't have to feel forced to give it (unless that is her desire). Consider this a one-time response. I am here to discuss the OP's situation, not take your ridiculous personal attacks. Everyone is entitled to their personal opinion about the situations presented here. Be mature and respectful enough to understand that.
Arabella Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Interesting question, why should anyone have any concern about their partner's pleasure if they are either not feeling 100% or don't get pleasure out of it themselves? That would mean they actually cared about making their partner feel good and not just about themselves. We can't have that! I see your point. To me, however, the issue is that she can still have vaginal sex despite the blood but he chooses not to because he's grossed out, and wants something else instead that she will not enjoy as much (anal). He wants to be pleased, but not to please her at the same time. Some women have debilitating periods, most don't. OP didn't say one way or the other, so a fairly safe assumption is hers aren't that bad. After reading OP's other thread, I think she is upset about his being too busy for her tastes, a situation she admits knowing from the start of the relationship, and punishes him by withholding sex. The period is just the latest camouflage. He sees through this and is starting to get fed up. Probably a relationship that just needs to be euthanised on both ends. Yes, reading further comments by her in this thread and the other, it does seem that there may be more to this situation than she originally presented. If she withholds sex as punishment, then his reaction may not be so unusual. He may just have suspected that she was doing that again -- which she admitted to, saying that she was testing him.
Arabella Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Eh, you may be right. I'm not sure now. I was under the impression that he was the one who didn't want to have vaginal sex due to the blood. Hence why he brought up anal?
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Yes, reading further comments by her in this thread and the other, it does seem that there may be more to this situation than she originally presented. If she withholds sex as punishment, then his reaction may not be so unusual. He may just have suspected that she was doing that again -- which she admitted to, saying that she was testing him. Read her other threads. I think AmericanHoney is a Psycho. This guy had to straight lay down the law to get her to be exclusive. She NEVER answers questions... and to be fair none of the "girls club" posters care or ask anything themselves. They just jump into their normal man hating circle jerk and ignore anything rational.
udolipixie Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 I completely agree... but you really have no idea what it's like to be a guy in this situation. The problem I've had with this whole thread is that every poster has come in guns blaring without asking basic questions that are important. If you can't stop to take a guys point of view into consideration in a situation like this... You are NO BETTER THAN HIM! She's no better but she's not worse than him. His point of view doesn't invoke sympathy. She's in pain and he's focused on his pleasure. He wants sex & he can get sexual release from masturbation. ^ He won't be as satisfied but he has sexual release. In her case she's in pain & will remain in pain but he has gotten his pleasure vaginally or anally (anal being something she's uncomfortable with). If he was offering that they both get pleasure him fingering/performing oral then vaginal then he'd have a sympathetic point of view.
udolipixie Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 And a real woman says yes at any time. Really? Because real woman is not what most guys would call that woman.
udolipixie Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Read her other threads. I think AmericanHoney is a Psycho. This guy had to straight lay down the law to get her to be exclusive. She NEVER answers questions... and to be fair none of the "girls club" posters care or ask anything themselves. They just jump into their normal man hating circle jerk and ignore anything rational. You are aware you did something similiar? Instead of asking questions you assumed things. And your assumptions were in favor of the guy. Your knee jerk reaction was to not accept what she had to say because you didn't like the responses. Your knee jerk reaction was to assume that she must have done something for him to react strongly. Then you blame his p*ssy attitude & emotionally detachment on her. As for man hating circle jerk? Most of the posts stated he wasn't understanding. I see no man hate there. This is loveshack. The woman hating circle jerk is actual woman hating. You also assumed just because your past gfs liked period sex then she should too or something is wrong with her. Ok, so the knee jerk retards have had their say, but it seems to me there is some missing info here. How long has it been since you two were intimate? Have you ever had sex with him on your period before this? Something isn't adding up to me because he seems overly pissy about this and was clearly emotionally detaching from you beforehand. I'd say you screwed this relationship some time before this particular incident. Also... I can count back about 11 GF's and I really can't think of one that wouldn't be willing to have sex during that time of the month. Though it's never something I pushed for.
udolipixie Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Make sure to tell him so, maybe he'll be smart enough to leave in advance. Interesting. What's the point of him being in a relationship with you again? I jerk off all the time WITHOUT the headache of women like you. c.) oral? Is that not even considered? Men's pleasure doesn't matter right? Again, why would any man want to be with you? Please enlighten me. Funny by suggesting oral you're not even considering a woman's pleasure. So instead of vaginal sex where they both get pleasure (however to you apparently this is not considering a man's pleasure) you suggest oral where he only gets pleasure.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Thank you D-lish exactly my point and he doesn't say one word when he was texting me and I text him several hrs later appologize for being on my monthly and several hrs later he said I was busy what is your deal? How the heck can someone be sooooo busy they cannot return a simple phone call or text. I shouldn't appologize for something I cannot help and guys need to realize us ladies are emotions are all over the map so when you ignore us we take it personally and not returning a call until several hrs later isn't cool. I am not needy but I really hate the I am busy excuse. He works at a bank for crying out loud 9-5 I know his schedule and I know he cannot be that freaking busy after that.It was also a test to see if he was really into me or just all about the sex and so far he failed. I'm starting to sense that you don't understand the meaning of the word "can't". You are fooling yourself if you think "he" "cannot" return that phone call or text. Now if he is driving for a 15-minute window surrounding the point of your text, then grant some exception. Something you "cannot" help? You could be on birth control, and just skip the placebos, and not endure that which you seemingly "cannot help". Try being honest with the guy, perhaps for the first time, and then let his response dictate your decision to stay or go.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 First off I never said no to sex. I said no sex during my time of the month. And that certainly isn't American Honey
Hot Chick Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 (edited) I think it's not even about the period. Every once in a while you just might not be in the mood. You are not a mean, heartless ***** or inconsiderate just because you don't have sex with your partner EVERY single time they want it. Heck sometimes even GUYS aren't in the mood (yes, it happens. In the case of a good friend, her husband is a chef and is working hard 14 hours a day, especially during busy season. during busy season, he often is so exhausted after work he just doesn't feel up to sex. she is sometimes hurt by this, but they do get through it and try to have it in the morning. However, she is understanding that during the busy season he is simply EXHAUSTED all the time, making a great living for them.) They communicate and cherish ANY time they can have together. Now if my friend posted on here that she was upset that her husband worked 14 hours a day and was too exhausted to have sex a lot of the time, men would be on here attacking her for even feeling upset that she didn't get sex as much as she would like (not that she is upset. It's been one VERY minor issue and they are very loving toward each other. She just waits for the summer season when it is super busy at this resort restaurant to be over....then they have a very active sex life during off season.) Your boyfriend - He appears to have serious anger issues over a few days he would have to go without sex. Most caring men would be glad to just spend time with their partner, whether they're having sex or not. I think you should dump your boyfriend. I am with Art Critic. He doesn't respect you as a person and just cares about sex. Edited July 12, 2011 by Hot Chick
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