Author AmericanHoney Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 I like him I really do but I am getting tired of his busy excuses. I hear that more and more lately and he never appologizes I always get blamed what the heck? He goes from talking to me all the time to stopping and when he stops I ask him what's up and he gets all mad and asks me what my problem is. He is hiding something......
Art_Critic Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 AmericanHoney.. he is disrespecting you.. while you may like him he doesn't really like and respect you. Sex is all he wants and when he can't have that he has no use for you. It isn't going to get better.. he doesn't respect you and you should at the very least want respect out of your partner
Author AmericanHoney Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 I guess you are right. He really doesn't respect me. He is a selfish,selfish person! Shoot even my friend who works 24/7 manages to say hello.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 The point of the matter is someone should respect your decision. That's the problem, she hasn't been bold enough to make a decision and then make it clear to him. Instead she hides behind the probable lies including that she "can't have (vaginal intercourse)" and that she "can't have anal (sex)". In a later post she then talks about the importance of "communication". If a doctor tells you that under no circumstances are you to engage in sexual activity, then you "can't" have sex. IF you are somehow anatomically incapable of vaginal intercourse, then a penis "can't" penetrate your vaginal canal. Much beyond that and it becomes your choice... and when you are unwilling to communicate your choices to your mate, then you are as guilty of the lack of communication as he is. For some reason it must feel easier to invoke some (mythical???) 3rd party reason why you "can't" have sex rather than have to witness yourself rejecting your mate more directly.
Author AmericanHoney Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 First off I never said no to sex. I said no sex during my time of the month. It seems like a legit excuse.
2sunny Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 First off I never said no to sex. I said no sex during my time of the month. It seems like a legit excuse. so you used it as e legitimate excuse? why not speak your truth? "i don't intend to have sex with you" that is honest... instead of EXCUSES...
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I am currently on my monthly and my BF is mad because I can't have sex. Isn't that kinda petty?? He asked me to do it anal and that's just gross IMHO and he got all mad. Ok, so the knee jerk retards have had their say, but it seems to me there is some missing info here. How long has it been since you two were intimate? Have you ever had sex with him on your period before this? Something isn't adding up to me because he seems overly pissy about this and was clearly emotionally detaching from you beforehand. I'd say you screwed this relationship some time before this particular incident. Also... I can count back about 11 GF's and I really can't think of one that wouldn't be willing to have sex during that time of the month. Though it's never something I pushed for.
shadowofman Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Seriously! Ever girl I've ever been with has begged me for sex during her period. It's me that is grossed out and then suggesting only if it can be anal.
D-Lish Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 That's the problem, she hasn't been bold enough to make a decision and then make it clear to him. Instead she hides behind the probable lies including that she "can't have (vaginal intercourse)" and that she "can't have anal (sex)". In a later post she then talks about the importance of "communication". If a doctor tells you that under no circumstances are you to engage in sexual activity, then you "can't" have sex. IF you are somehow anatomically incapable of vaginal intercourse, then a penis "can't" penetrate your vaginal canal. Much beyond that and it becomes your choice... and when you are unwilling to communicate your choices to your mate, then you are as guilty of the lack of communication as he is. For some reason it must feel easier to invoke some (mythical???) 3rd party reason why you "can't" have sex rather than have to witness yourself rejecting your mate more directly. Ever had a period? Do you know what it's like? Some women don't have horrible periods- but a lot of us do. Want to know what it's like? It's like having the flu for a lot of us. Fever, painful cramping in your abdominal region, sore everywhere, nauseous, vomiting, diarrhea... It's not pleasant, because you feel like crap. A dude that insists on getting laid during this time without any compassion for what his gf is going through is a total arse. She's not rejecting him, she's feeling like crap, and it ususally takes 2-4 days to recover. It doesn't matter though- it's something she's uncomfortable with (along with the anal)- the fact that he would get mad at her for this is unreasonable beyond a lot of arguments that have come up here on LS. Imagine men having to deal with this!! They'd be in bed for 3 days every month whining for attention. The fact that the OP's dude has no comprehension for why she might not want have sex when she's feeling ill has more red flags than the Winter Olympics.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I am currently on my monthly and my BF is mad because I can't have sex. Isn't that kinda petty?? He asked me to do it anal and that's just gross IMHO and he got all mad. "Can't"? or won't? Just in case you don't know, it's not unusual at all for women to work around that and enjoy sex throughout the period. Maybe you want to consider not being such a hard-liner about it.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 A dude that insists on getting laid during this time without any compassion for what his gf is going through is a total arse. She's not rejecting him, she's feeling like crap, and it ususally takes 2-4 days to recover. It doesn't matter though- it's something she's uncomfortable with (along with the anal)- the fact that he would get mad at her for this is unreasonable beyond a lot of arguments that have come up here on LS. I completely agree... but you really have no idea what it's like to be a guy in this situation. The problem I've had with this whole thread is that every poster has come in guns blaring without asking basic questions that are important. If you can't stop to take a guys point of view into consideration in a situation like this... You are NO BETTER THAN HIM!
Author AmericanHoney Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 (edited) Thank you D-lish exactly my point and he doesn't say one word when he was texting me and I text him several hrs later appologize for being on my monthly and several hrs later he said I was busy what is your deal? How the heck can someone be sooooo busy they cannot return a simple phone call or text. I shouldn't appologize for something I cannot help and guys need to realize us ladies are emotions are all over the map so when you ignore us we take it personally and not returning a call until several hrs later isn't cool. I am not needy but I really hate the I am busy excuse. He works at a bank for crying out loud 9-5 I know his schedule and I know he cannot be that freaking busy after that.It was also a test to see if he was really into me or just all about the sex and so far he failed. Edited July 8, 2011 by AmericanHoney
OldOnTheInside Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 The fact that the OP's dude has no comprehension for why she might not want have sex when she's feeling ill has more red flags than the Winter Olympics. Agreed, you'd want an understanding bf. If you can't stop to take a guys point of view into consideration in a situation like this... You are NO BETTER THAN HIM! Agreed, he'd want an understanding gf. I dunno AH, seems like the relationship has bigger problems. What with his "busyness". Don't see things working out if he makes no attempt to be more understanding. My personal opinion: Menstrual fluid = more lube for everyone.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I think if a woman says "I can't" or "I won't have sex while I'm on my period," that should not be a big huge deal for a guy to accept. If she doesn't want to have sex because she doesn't feel like having sex once in a while for ANY reason, it should be the same. Goes for the guy too. I'm assuming that we are talking about a couple that's basically sexually compatible, since this is presented as a one time issue. I find it disturbing that we're hearing that she "has a mouth," should do anal, or that she needs to see it from his point of view. Why isn't it okay for her to not have sex ONCE, for whatever reason? Is having sex ANY TIME the guy wants it, no matter how she feels, a woman's sworn duty?
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I think if a woman says "I can't" or "I won't have sex while I'm on my period," that should not be a big huge deal for a guy to accept. If she doesn't want to have sex because she doesn't feel like having sex once in a while for ANY reason, it should be the same. Goes for the guy too. I'm assuming that we are talking about a couple that's basically sexually compatible, since this is presented as a one time issue. I find it disturbing that we're hearing that she "has a mouth," should do anal, or that she needs to see it from his point of view. Why isn't it okay for her to not have sex ONCE, for whatever reason? Is having sex ANY TIME the guy wants it, no matter how she feels, a woman's sworn duty? Where was it stated this is a one time issue? From what I see she hasn't posted anything at all regarding when they last had sex... could be 2 months ago. Actually I asked that question and she ignored it. That should tell you something. I think you are assuming too much here. Yet minus most pertinent facts your off demonizing this guy. It's flat out poor advice, and way too biased. I also don't like the implication that only women's sexual needs are important. Hell, if I'm having a physical issue and my woman wants to get sexual... I'm going to do what a lover should do and find a compromise.
musemaj11 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 A real man respects no at any time. And a real woman says yes at any time.
oaks Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I am currently on my monthly and my BF is mad because I can't have sex. Isn't that kinda petty?? He asked me to do it anal and that's just gross IMHO and he got all mad. Tell him you'll give him oral if he'll return the favour. Actually, now that I've read the rest of the thread, I think you should either dump him or at least put him on a written warning. He's "busy", but I bet he'll suddenly not be busy in about 5 days.
phillyfan Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Dude PLEASE. This guy is treatin u like dogsh*t, u walk away RITE NOW girl. Take it from a dude, he dont give a sh*t about u, DONT CHASE HIM DUMP HIM. He says take it in the azz n gets nasty wen u dont want 2, wtf?! AINT NORMAL GIRL, normal nice dudes dont do that sh*t.
Lucky_One Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I think if a woman says "I can't" or "I won't have sex while I'm on my period," that should not be a big huge deal for a guy to accept. If she doesn't want to have sex because she doesn't feel like having sex once in a while for ANY reason, it should be the same. Goes for the guy too. I'm assuming that we are talking about a couple that's basically sexually compatible, since this is presented as a one time issue. I find it disturbing that we're hearing that she "has a mouth," should do anal, or that she needs to see it from his point of view. Why isn't it okay for her to not have sex ONCE, for whatever reason? Is having sex ANY TIME the guy wants it, no matter how she feels, a woman's sworn duty? This! If she wanted to have sex while having her period and he didn't, would we be telling him to put his mouth there? No, we'd be telling the woman to get herself off. And the guy can get himself off, too. A side note: maybe someone IS too busy to return a call. Geez. A few hours? Get over the instant gratifciation desire in your life, and realize that sometimes people aren't going to pounce on their phones and instantly respond to every call or text.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 If my boyfriend pulled that one, I'd be throwing his ass out of the house on the spot. Make sure to tell him so, maybe he'll be smart enough to leave in advance. If your boyfriend needs to have his needs satisfied, he can either: a) jerk off Interesting. What's the point of him being in a relationship with you again? I jerk off all the time WITHOUT the headache of women like you. b) have sex with you blood and all (if you want to). c.) oral? Is that not even considered? Men's pleasure doesn't matter right? Again, why would any man want to be with you? Please enlighten me.
grkBoy Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Geez...like he can't calm his libido down for a few days? If anything, just give him some head and call it a night.
BetheButterfly Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Seriously! Ever girl I've ever been with has begged me for sex during her period. It's me that is grossed out and then suggesting only if it can be anal. I get even more horny than normal when I'm in my period. I don't know why... and having sex takes my mind off the menstual pain and discomfort and on to enjoyment... Anyways, Americanhoney, he is disrespecting you. If I were you, I would leave him a voicemail calmly saying, "We are not compatible. I wish you the best. Goodbye." and that's it. Over. with a final period. (couldn't help it, sorry)
musemaj11 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Period sex is disgusting because I cant stand blood in the first place.
denise_xo Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 If a man had gotten mad about me being on my period, I would have thrown him right to the curb. I try to compensate with oral during that time. Anal isn't an option for me.
TheFamilyMan Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 It's a bit inconsiderate and immature in my opinion that he would get upset about that...
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