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soo, its been 5 day since he broke up with me ( email) and 3 days since he completly blocked me from fb,aim wont answer one calls nothing..and only 1 day of NC..i emailed him yesterday some sort of goodbye email...still waitin for an answer which i know will never come.

 

im being so bipolar now...woke up feeling like sh*t missing him sooo much thinking about going to see him so he has the guts to break up with me face to face....then a had a mayor meltdown start crying thinkin i probably will never see him again and that the loved he told me he felt and how i was his everything were just BS (which make me feel even worst)

 

now im soooo angry at him i mean he could even dignify me with a call and wen i begged him to with me the chance to talk if what we had was real then he should at least give us the chance to talkhe said "what we had was real i wqas playing i love you sooooo much dont make this harder than it is"...and thats it

 

i mean if you love someone your suppose to work things out..he wont even meet me halfway. he took me for granted and then dump me

 

i feel like this areover but still want to see him and talkto him id rather he been brutaly honest than this...cant get over him...shouldi try go see him? i cant find a way to ease this feeling :(

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dont contact him , if he want's to reconcile he will please dont make the mistakes i made , i done the begging pleading thing only to find out she was seeing someone else i wish i never contacted her at least then i wouldn't have known just delayed my healing process , just move on if it's meant to be it will work it's self out , till then n/c all the way , you are still relativley raw from your break up , give it some time , let him know how you feel then dissapear , if he breaks down your front door then it's meant to be untill then focus on yr self , best of luck .

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dont contact him , if he want's to reconcile he will please dont make the mistakes i made , i done the begging pleading thing only to find out she was seeing someone else i wish i never contacted her at least then i wouldn't have known just delayed my healing process , just move on if it's meant to be it will work it's self out , till then n/c all the way , you are still relativley raw from your break up , give it some time , let him know how you feel then dissapear , if he breaks down your front door then it's meant to be untill then focus on yr self , best of luck .

 

all this is just driving me crazy! i kno he will be off work tomorrow and i keep telling my self maybe tomorrow hell call, hed want to talk about us...im just getting my hopes up in a stupid childish way :(...

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Definitely don't go see him. It won't be better in person because at the end of the day, barring a miracle change of heart, the outcome will be the same. The relationship will be over.

 

I was holding the keys to my ex-girlfriend's place in my hands today, just thinking about going to see her. I was also dumped in an insensitive way, I got a text saying it was over. Then I realized seeing someone who doesn't want me is just masochistic. We need to protect ourselves right now because if we take on any more pain life would just be completely unbearable.

 

It's hard enough right now, I know. I'm only on my 3rd day NC and it feels just as horrible as day 1 and day 2. You just have to look for solace wherever you can find it. Speaking to our ex's right now will only make things worse.

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Definitely don't go see him. It won't be better in person because at the end of the day, barring a miracle change of heart, the outcome will be the same. The relationship will be over.

 

I was holding the keys to my ex-girlfriend's place in my hands today, just thinking about going to see her. I was also dumped in an insensitive way, I got a text saying it was over. Then I realized seeing someone who doesn't want me is just masochistic. We need to protect ourselves right now because if we take on any more pain life would just be completely unbearable.

 

It's hard enough right now, I know. I'm only on my 3rd day NC and it feels just as horrible as day 1 and day 2. You just have to look for solace wherever you can find it. Speaking to our ex's right now will only make things worse.

 

it just hurst,i mean last week everything was fine!! and then this..last time i saw him everything was "perfect" and know he just act like if i never exist.

I know he clearly doesnt want me but still i keep thinking maybe hell call...today was my first NC it was horrible and i just keep thinking all days will be like this :(

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it just hurst,i mean last week everything was fine!! and then this..last time i saw him everything was "perfect" and know he just act like if i never exist.

I know he clearly doesnt want me but still i keep thinking maybe hell call...today was my first NC it was horrible and i just keep thinking all days will be like this :(

 

The exact same thing happened to me. The last time I saw her was Friday. We both left work early for the holiday weekend and got lunch--she had to catch a bus to visit her family outside of NYC. We kissed, held hands, made plans to see each other on Tuesday. All weekend she doesn't answer my texts or return my calls, then on July 4th I get a text saying it's over. That's the thing that's tearing me up every second, the thought of, what if we had met on Tuesday like we planned. I was so excited about seeing her, now I'm dealing with the frightening possibility of not speaking to her again. She really shut me out. I know you're in NYC like I am, so it doesn't help to walk the streets and see couples holding hands EVERYWHERE this time of year. Still, we have to be strong, NC is our best option at this point.

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The exact same thing happened to me. The last time I saw her was Friday. We both left work early for the holiday weekend and got lunch--she had to catch a bus to visit her family outside of NYC. We kissed, held hands, made plans to see each other on Tuesday. All weekend she doesn't answer my texts or return my calls, then on July 4th I get a text saying it's over. That's the thing that's tearing me up every second, the thought of, what if we had met on Tuesday like we planned. I was so excited about seeing her, now I'm dealing with the frightening possibility of not speaking to her again. She really shut me out. I know you're in NYC like I am, so it doesn't help to walk the streets and see couples holding hands EVERYWHERE this time of year. Still, we have to be strong, NC is our best option at this point.

 

 

he broke up with me july 4th too..it was because i told him we needed to spend more time together,he lives in new jersey (which is not even that far) i told him that friday. All weekend i kept calling and texting and he doesnt answer. On monday i woke up and i was blocked from everything fb aim skype and got an email telling me it was over he loves me but he doesnt want to hurt me.

I dont get it i know im not clingy i always gave him space. Althought im hoping hell contact me at some point, i know this wont happen..and your right i cant even go out without feeling :mad: seeing all this happy couples ughhh:sick: haha.

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You asked to see him more, and he bailed on you. That's a persons way of telling you they don't want a commitment. He was fine with the way things were, you pushed for more, and he bolted.

 

You can't do anything about guys like this.

 

How long were you dating?

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You asked to see him more, and he bailed on you. That's a persons way of telling you they don't want a commitment. He was fine with the way things were, you pushed for more, and he bolted.

 

You can't do anything about guys like this.

 

How long were you dating?

 

8 month...i ask for more because..i went back to my country for a couple of weeks so i came back on my bday cuz he said he wanted to spend that day with me,so i came back..it was on june 20 so im here waiting for him and he said he had to work, i was okay with it but still he was off the next day and nothing..that week we didnt went out at all next week either he was working straight i know that this week hell be off, thats why i keep thinking maybe hell try to talk or something.. he livesa state away from me so its not really far thats why itold him we needed

to spend more time together..its not like i was clingy...

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Really, what his actions are telling you is that he's lost interest.

When someone really wants to be with you, they will make it happen. When a guy starts to want to see less and less of you, that's not a good sign.

 

I suspect he's been working his way up to breaking up with you for a while, and when you asked to see him more, he took the opportunity to do it.

 

Going to see him or calling/texting isn't going to bring up back, it will probably push him further away.

 

As hard as it is to do, stay strong and don't contact him.

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Really, what his actions are telling you is that he's lost interest.

When someone really wants to be with you, they will make it happen. When a guy starts to want to see less and less of you, that's not a good sign.

 

I suspect he's been working his way up to breaking up with you for a while, and when you asked to see him more, he took the opportunity to do it.

 

Going to see him or calling/texting isn't going to bring up back, it will probably push him further away.

 

As hard as it is to do, stay strong and don't contact him.

 

im sure youre right i was thinking about it myself...but its still hard to know that one day they love you and the next they dont even want you in their life.....i guess not everything is meant to be...still miss him tho imma keep doing NC take it day by day..thank u :)

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