Ex is in my thoughts....

[Paige1377]

My ex and I broke up two weeks ago and I moved with our ten month out of the house we shared. He broke it off after six years saying for two months he has been thinking we should split before our daughter gets too big to see it. He said it felt for two years he hasn't loved me. We had been fighting a lot lately, mainly bc I was bored being at home and wanted to lose some weight. Also, he had started texted this woman and I asked him to stop and he wouldn't and I was insecure bc I still carried my baby weight and thought he was cheating which I found out he wasn't. I was un happy with him bc he had pulled away from me and lied about a strip club and about a month before the split he had gone out with his friends and I found out he was actually with his buddy and some girl he met. It's been about a week and a half since I left with our daughter and sine I left I haven't called him asking for him to take us back, bc honestly I felt he did myself and our daughter wrong by leaving us. I think he was being selfish bc he wanted to focus on getting promoted more than he wanted his child or his wife around. We have had minimal contact purely about our daughter, I asked him to start using emails so if/when we go for custody I have proof I wasn't keeping her from him. However, he is adamant that he won't email, and every time we talk about the baby now he's very aggressive, like he's mad at me for something I did when he pushed us away. During the break up we had discussed reconciliation within a couple months, and I wanted it, he said he wasnt sure bc he didn't know what the future held and I shouldn't get my hopes up. I stopped thinking hes gonna comeback Bout four days ago, but I still miss him. Our daughter is growing pretty fast right now and I hate that he is missing it. My question is why is he suddenly so angry with me? I have been cordial, haven't harassed him bc he made the choice not me, he wanted to be single and i respected it bc I still wNt him to help financially with our daughter and be in her life....but why so angry? I feel since he has had two months to think about this that he's already moved on, probably dating that woman he was texting, which is his choice, but why now the anger? He said to me I should have stayed closer to try and work things out but bc I love him I needed time to heal and couldn't see him out being single and partying......his daughters need their parents to be happy.....a week ago he knee I wanted to reconcile but since then I haven't mentioned it bc I feel its best for me to try and move on....and see if he might try to come back....I just want to know from a guys perspective what he could be thinking....and whether he might try to comeback at some point. Thanks

[danny1972]

im trying to understand the situation here but i really haven't got to much to go on apart from the fact he met another girl and has been agressive when it comes to communication regarding your daughter.

 

from a guys point of view it seems he is quite content living his life this way ,and maybe you are using your child as an exuse to reconcile which if is the case is definatley for the wrong reasons .

 

i would forget any reconciliation at the moment and focus on your child , you cannot force someone to be a parent ,he has to want to be in the childs life , if he makes a concious effort to see the child than so be it if not , then you know where you stand , there are litterally thousands of single parents out there who are in the same situation , if he wants to be a father so be it but understand this ,better now while the child is young ,than a few years later when he could potentially be in and out that child life screwing her head up even more , focus on yr child if he wants to take an active role he will ,if not then im sure someone will appreciate you and your child

[Paige1377]

I want reconciliation bc I do love him but I can't be patient forever, it's only been two weeks but I feel it's something he should have decided right after we left. Also, with the limited contact do you think he's doing that to let me down gently, or keep me at bay so he can see what is out there? I tried to ask him a week ago how he was doing and he shut down. I just want to know if it seems like he might come back. I miss our family and my daughter will miss him. He is also living somewhere where he won't be long so I don't think he is trying to get into a serious relationship. I just don't get how after six years and my daughter he could change his thoughts like at. We have broken up about two years ago for a month and got back together bc we missed each other. I can't read him, and just want to know what his actions look like from someone Who is not part of it.