sun_moon Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 My mother and my ex's mother are good long time friends, always have been, even before him and I became and item. (I knew of him when he was little) Well my mother tells me today, oh she's going to probably drop by today after work. He sent me some texts last night stating the following: ..still waiting ...I'm 200% certain you are reading my messages and that your purposely choosing to not respond. ...Well I've got 2 pieces of news for you whenever your interested that I feel you should know about. For a long time I didn't respond, I didn't respond when he called and texted this past weekend, but I sent a ? last night to which he didn't respond. Why did I break NC again, why am I curious? Same questions, different week, different thread, my God, I need to stay strong. Thank God he didn't respond and I hope he doesn't. It does anger me that he thinks I'm playing a game or something. I am not playing a game, I want to heal. It angers me that he cant stand being ignored but he did it to me at the height of my pain when he was in a rebound. I could go on and on. I've already had the don't contact me any more conversation with him, and I really really don't want to change my number. The good news is I wont be home tonight I already had plans and thank god for that. Even if I didn't, I would bolt out my house before she came by. I remember when the breakup was fresh, I was coming home and I saw her car in my drive way, I didn't even go inside. I kept driving and went to seek refuge at my sisters house. It was so fresh and I was in such pain, that seeing his mother would be a definite trigger. So anyway, I will keep you posted on what happens. I am determined to have fun tonight and not think of him.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 It does anger me that he thinks I'm playing a game or something. I am not playing a game, I want to heal. It angers me that he cant stand being ignored but he did it to me at the height of my pain when he was in a rebound. I could go on and on. I've already had the don't contact me any more conversation with him, and I really really don't want to change my number. All the more reason not to break NC again. I hardly call sending a question mark breaking NC. Don't let him get to you. You've got this. You've had that talk with him. It just goes to show how much respect he actually has for you. Why can't he just send you a text explaining the 2 pieces of news that he feels that you should know about? Why do you have to respond to get that information. I doubt it's anything important anyways. Just something else to try to get you to come out of NC so he can string you along for a minute before you have to go back into NC and start the healing process all over again. Just reading you post makes me want to strangle this guy. If I were you, I would personally just change my number and get on with it. I know it's a pain, but I don't think he's going to stop anytime soon. He's just going to keep driving you mad until you finally break NC. Don't let him do that to you.
Author sun_moon Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 Good news is, I am now home after a wonderful time with my friend. I socialized, danced, mingled, and even laughed with a drunk dude. lol all harmless fun. Also, I really cant tell because my mother is asleep but I dont think her friend (his mom) came tonight, also, I havent gotten a call or text from him since last night, yay. A good day all around. It started rough because my mind was racing all morning and afternoon, but it ended with a success, great fun and no sound of him. BTW, I completely agree with you as well, why cant he just send the news via text. It does go to show how he's not respecting my boundaries and the process. Maybe he thinks I'm over it and wants to be "friends" but I'm not buying it, besides, why do I have to spell it out to him that I and when I mean I, I also mean him, need time to HEAL. Is that a foreign concept to him? My friend is convinced that he's trying to weasel his way back into my life as a friend in hopes it can turn into more. NEGATIVE, I cant go down that road. I am not sure what he wants but its all breadcrumbs in the end. I appreciate the frank apology and remorse last week, but now that he's said his piece, he's had his 'closure', right? Everything that has come before the apology and after has been: breadcrumbs breadcrumbs breadcrumbs I am going to sleep with a smile on my face because I had nice night.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Good news is, I am now home after a wonderful time with my friend. I socialized, danced, mingled, and even laughed with a drunk dude. lol all harmless fun. Also, I really cant tell because my mother is asleep but I dont think her friend (his mom) came tonight, also, I havent gotten a call or text from him since last night, yay. A good day all around. It started rough because my mind was racing all morning and afternoon, but it ended with a success, great fun and no sound of him. BTW, I completely agree with you as well, why cant he just send the news via text. It does go to show how he's not respecting my boundaries and the process. Maybe he thinks I'm over it and wants to be "friends" but I'm not buying it, besides, why do I have to spell it out to him that I and when I mean I, I also mean him, need time to HEAL. Is that a foreign concept to him? My friend is convinced that he's trying to weasel his way back into my life as a friend in hopes it can turn into more. NEGATIVE, I cant go down that road. I am not sure what he wants but its all breadcrumbs in the end. I appreciate the frank apology and remorse last week, but now that he's said his piece, he's had his 'closure', right? Everything that has come before the apology and after has been: breadcrumbs breadcrumbs breadcrumbs I am going to sleep with a smile on my face because I had nice night. Good to hear. You are correct. It's all breadcrumbs. Unless he straight up comes out with it and says how he feels, it's all garbage. Like I keep telling myself as well as everyone else, unless she's knocking at my door, drops to her knees, begging, pleading, apologizing and crying, I'm not going to bother with a reply. There's just no point, because anything other than someone coming out and stating/showing their true emotions, is all breadcrumbs. Sweet dreams!!!
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