just_scott Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 been thinkin of things latly ,i'm a dumpee my girl walked out on me over a month ago after we invested 6 yrs into a good relationship [2 yrs as friends getting to know each other, 4 yrs exclusive] AT first i was crushed,devistated etc when she left,NOW i'm cool with it ,i woke up and realized if you don't want to be with me and rather someone else then screw it i aint gonna make myself depressd and sick over it ... BEING cheatted on is the biggest BETRAYAL in a relationship ,theirs nothing worse .the dumpee feels rejected,foolish,un wanted and un loved,like some piece of trash who was just tossed away YOU feel like everything the dumper said to you was lies OR maybe they meant it at the time YOU can't understand how someone youu've given your heart and soul to AND who you believe gave you theirs could just up and leave and want to just cut you out of their life at the drop of a hat .AND they'll try to give you some pretty lame excuses like they don't love you anymore or aren't in love with you anymore and then say they don't want to hurt you BUT those words KILL they take the wind out of your sails . AND then we sit around depressed and like life is oveer and believe their out with their new partners out and enjoying life like they don't have a care in the world , and wonder how they can sleep at nights knowing what tey've just did AND they'll even say i care about you as a friend ,we can be friends ? NO WAY a friend wouldn't do that to you a friend wouldn't betray you and kill your trust in them . YOU'VE just got to wake up and see the pain they caused you and admit to yourself that their probably not going to come back into your lifes and make everything right THEY'RE never going to tell you the real reason they left you on the side of the road AND YOU got to move on the quicker the better for you YOU don't have to avoid being places where they are just skip by them like they're just some other random person AND i know it hurts when you run into people and they say hey how's so and so i just say you'd have to ask her cause i have no clue A cheatter is definatly the ENEMY
Layzie89 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Does anyone else find this guys capitalization of words not just in this post but other posts as well extremely distracting? If you're trying to emphasize something, at least capitalize the right words so your're actually stressing what you're trying to stress. I don't know, it's just kind of annoying to me. But to get back to your post, I completely understand how you feel. Been there, done that, many times over.
danny1972 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 you say they are not probably going to come back in to your life ? why the hell would you want them too ? the line has been crossed the cut off point has been reached ,if thats the type of person she is your better off out of it ,understably 6 yrs is a long time , you are young you have the rest of your life ahead of you dust your self and move on safe in the knowledge that she will prob repeat the process in future relationships , and by then you will be in a stronger position (if she does come running) back to tell her to **** off
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 you say they are not probably going to come back in to your life ? why the hell would you want them too ? the line has been crossed the cut off point has been reached ,if thats the type of person she is your better off out of it ,understably 6 yrs is a long time , you are young you have the rest of your life ahead of you dust your self and move on safe in the knowledge that she will prob repeat the process in future relationships , and by then you will be in a stronger position (if she does come running) back to tell her to **** off I couldn't have said it better myself
Author just_scott Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 when i said ''they're probably not going to come back into your lifr'' i wasn't refering to me and my situation mine is done and finalized but i see posts about peoople asking if their ex's will ever come back , or contact them and i'd say to them probably not i just look at my situation now and laugh it was a good long running comedy but the comedy ended oh well hey their were no CAPS lol
danny1972 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 i understand, just keep away, best advice i can give .maybe she will come back maybe she wont ....you can do better .
Gack Posted July 9, 2011 Posted July 9, 2011 Yup exactly what i wanna say. When we past our 3rd year anniversary she posted 3 years is not enough, i want many many more years, i love you blah blah. 1 month later and she is with another guy. Such a gentle crybaby but i guess her playfulness got the better of her. It hurts when i think she is hugging somebody else and maybe doing it with the guy instead of me. All the stuff she said towards the end, i wonder how many of them that i believe are actually lies she told me. She is out there having fun with the guy and his friends and here i am all alone and trying to pick myself up. Although i don't get those severe heartache and burst of tears like i do at the start anymore but now and then the memories when i go to any place and the thought of all the happy times flood into my head. I been to everywhere in the country with her. She has no sense of direction and i bought her everywhere to familiarize and bring her to new places. Now i see her check in at facebook to places i bought her to with the guy, and doing stuff that i promised to do with her but haven't done. She probably thought i didn't wanna do it anymore but i really do. I don't check her facebook anymore cuz she deleted me after i post i went out with a girl. She really was the most perfect gf and my 1st everything. It so hard to let go of something so beautiful like that. I could get angry at her but it could never last. This rollercoaster ride really never seem to stop, awhile i'm ok then awhile i keep thinking of her. Asking why why why and knowing i probably won't ever know, imagining if one day she comes back and begs for a second chance i will ask her what she did and why she left me. Probably feel like different feeling already when i'm with her, no trust and all that. She is young and wanna go out into the world and explore and i'm holding her back. True she hurt me and she is with another guy. I had that feeling too when i was with her at the start but i did not do it. I wasn't so weak. She is. I blame her for it, i blame her for not listening to me even when she says she does. I blame her for repeating her mistakes over and over again and finally the biggest mistake of cheating on me. All this and yet. I think of her all the time. No contact with her for 10 days already. Wonder how much she misses me since she still gets jealous. If the honeymoon period is over i wonder what her feelings will be. I know i should not be thinking this way but at least when i do think this way i did not break contact or anything so it just in my head. It harder to heal i know but the way this keep popping out in my head even when i'm out jogging or with my friends, really can't be helped but think of it. It nice knowing this situation isn't unique. But i don't get how a nice faithful, gentle crybaby like her and we have such a enviable relationship that other relationship can't even compare on the closeness we have and all that best stuff that makes it up falls to piece just like that. My guess is she is immature and don't know how to think even when she thinks she can.
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