rodeo Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Before I begin, I want to apologize for the length but I really need some help from people besides all my friends. I would appreciate it SOOOOO much if you would read this and help me out, if not I understand, too. Ok so I'm only 16 years old and have a girlfriend who is 16, aswell. We have been dating close to 2 years now and I am absolutely head over heels in love with her. I'm not posting here for everyone to tell me, you're young and not in love. I know how I feel and I am extremely young but I AM in love and want to be with this girl for the rest of my life. We are both virgins and I will not pressure her into anything she is not comfortable doing. We had a pretty good relationship but got into fights over petty stuff when we should really have only been arguing, if anything. We ended up going on a break due do a fight that I don't even know what the cause was. That night we went to a party and we drank (please don't criticize, not trying to sound conceited or rude but we are part of the "cool" kids I guess you'd say..that sounds so weird but that's besides the point) and she ended up being ALL over a kid who I was supposedly friends with and he drove her home and they ended up kissing. The next day I went over to a friends and he was there so excuse my French but I beat his ass lol..After being the most HEARTLESS person I have ever met and tearing my heart to shreds, she finally realized how terrible of a decision she made and begged and begged for me to take her back and she only did it to get over me, my point was that it was only a break and not a break up but we got over that hump and I was reassured it would never happen again and we got back together, not dating but back together. 2 weeks or so have gone by and we were WAY better than ever, we were so much more intimate before and I finally felt the click that we used to have. And then 2 nights ago we had a bunch of people over my house and anytime I tried to kiss her on the cheek or anything she pushed me away and I let it be. Then it continued in text messages with one word answers etc. and then she told me she needed time to see if she wanted us to be together. I understood and gave her a day and I couldn't contain myself anymore..I love her too much to watch our relationship get destroyed out of nowhere. I ended up sending her a 54 page text message, YES it was crazy but I needed to pour my heart out, I'm really emotional when it comes to her. She ended up telling me that she feels like her being with me is holding her back from a high school experience. I was upset but I wasn't going to argue so I just explained that I loved her but I can't bare to see her with any other guys and that I understand but I'm not going to wait forever..I don't want to be with any other girls I only want her. I talked to all of my friends (both guys and girls) and they all told me that I don't hold her back from a single thing besides being with other guys (obviously). I told her that and she still has this crazy imagination of what high school is supposed to be like, basically like what you see in a movie. I think her main reason of this is that a couple days ago she told me she wants to go to Tallahassee which is like 8 hours away for a few days with her friend from work who goes there (I really don't like the friend). I'm really sketchy about it since I know how she gets when she drinks. Also, she doesn't really know how to push guys away when the flirt with her and it really gets me angry. I don't understand how to explain any of this to her anymore I've tried to much and it hurts me to know that she can't decide if she wants me or not. Thank you so much for anyone who read at least part of this!!! I really needed to get this out of my system. I would really appreciate it if anyone who posts don't criticize me for drinking or being in love at 16, because I agree it isn't a great situation but I can't help it.
Author rodeo Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Ouch lol not even any views..All other threads have so many lol.
rafallus Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Thank you so much for anyone who read at least part of this!!! I really needed to get this out of my system. I would really appreciate it if anyone who posts don't criticize me for drinking or being in love at 16, because I agree it isn't a great situation but I can't help it. No, it's not criticism. Just expect that she isn't a model of maturity, so she may well cheat. Be mentally prepared to walk away when **** hits the fan, because you know yourself it can.
Damien Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 The post is only a few minutes old, just wait a little bit . I have read the whole thing myself but sadly I can't honestly give you any advice you're hoping to get. I was similar to the way you are at your age and I had a girlfriend at around 15, she left me for an older guy after a year. I can go on and on about how I felt like she was the one (at that time) but I won't. What I will say is that, whatever the outcome between you two, it will be a learning experience. I will agree with her and say that at 16 you're holding her 'back' a little, she's young she wants to experiment and be a regular high-school girl.
Author rodeo Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 thank you for answering TheLawmaker! I understand that, it is just so hard for me probably because I am young and have never experienced this before and don't want to let it go. You are right though, I'm done pushing her to try and stay with me, it is her decision.
Author rodeo Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Thank you. It is strange, I posted on Y! Answers and they all seem to say fight for what you want . I am so confused and don't know what to do anymore.
Bridgey Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I get what you're going through rodeo, I was with my high school sweetheart for three and a half years. I have no doubt that you two love each other, but especially at this age, love isn't always enough. It sounds like you two are growing apart, which is what happens to the majority of teen relationships due to how much you change at that age. If she decides to end the relationship the best thing you can do is take it in stride. Understand that it is not because she does not love you, it is simply that you two are not the same people you were two years ago. I hope some of this helps, good luck
Author rodeo Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Thank you very much Bridgey, it's just so hard for me to get that through my head at this time
Feelsgoodman Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Ouch lol not even any views..All other threads have so many lol. She wants to slut it up (I guess that goes with the territory when you're part of the "cool kids" crew) and being in a "relationship" with you is holding her back. Why do you think she's going to Tallahassee with her sketchy friend? To visit museums? Don't waste your time with this chick. That's the only advice I can give you.
sabienne Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 No criticism here. I understand what you're going through as well, and that it's really hard to listen to older people when you're a teen. It feels like everything is SO intense, and nobody can possibly have ever felt the way you're feeling and that you will never get over her and you will do anything for her, and she MUST feel the same way about you. *sigh* First love. So beautiful and naive. But you know what rodeo? It sadly comes crashing down for most of us. And we realise that we learned a lot from it, but we were ultimately better off. This is also hard to understand now, but the boy you are now (and you are still a boy) is not the man you will be in 5 years time. And the man you will be in 5 years time is not the man you will be 5 years after that. And the man...well, you get the idea. But especially over the next ten years, you will grow and change in ways you can't even begin to imagine. So will she. And whether you grow together or apart...well...time will tell. Let me just say, it's a big world out there. Think of how many kids are in your high school. 1000? 2000? Ok. There are 6 billion people in the world. Go to college. Travel. Go to parties. Get to know some new friends. Follow your dreams. YOUR dreams. If she wants to come for the ride, great. If she doesn't...well...there's another 2 999 999 999 out there! Go see the world and discover that for yourself. I really wish you the best of luck with everything!
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