ScienceGal Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 My ex left me about 3 weeks ago because he felt I did not treat him fairly during times of disagreement (he always wanted space, I wanted to talk and settle things quickly. I messaged him a week ago because I would like the rest of my things back from his place. He responded that he will talk to me when he is ready. I've been no contact since. I love him and believe the relationship can be saved, but he is stubborn and a control freak. Any ideas on how I can break through his tough exterior? What can I say or do... Or should I keep no contact? I don't want to lose him forever and i want to make the best possible moves. Thanks!
hearttopieces Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Hi ScienceGal, I say just be happy that he did not ignore you and responded to your msg. Try to respect his decision, and wait until he is ready. I have also asked my ex to wait until I was ready to talk to him. Initially he agreed, but started texing and calling. I was a bit dissapointed, as I thought well he doesn't even respect my last wish (= he doesn't love me). Of course every situation is different, and you know him better. But if he asked you not to contact him, I would suggest you not to (at least for a while).
Author ScienceGal Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 I will not contact him(I keep saying this..it's been 9 days since the text, so I am doing well) There is a small chance I will see him at a social gathering this weekend. I am going to look my best and look very happy. He said/did some hurtful things (ignoring my calls just before we split, calling me thoughtless and actually breaking up with me in an angry email) so I just need to remember that. He needs to recognize that his behavior did not support his claim to "love me". No one is perfect, and a relationship takes the effort of both people! Not easy...but I will try to push through. Grrr!
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