kbme311 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I said I'd lend this guy some DVDs but when I handed them to him, he said why don't we watch them together? So I suggested Saturday but then thought that having him over at my place made me feel a bit uncomfortable. We have a date on Saturday but I think I might suggest something that doesn't involve my place (he's not a stranger we've known each other for nearly three months). Since we've known each other for a while he might think things will be faster than usual but I really just want to take things slow and could do with some advice on how to do this. So on Saturday what should I suggest instead of the DVDs? He said Salsa, do you think that's a good idea? Then if we meet at a club or something I can find my own way home and there are no awkward come back for coffee moments. Neither of us really drink so do you think we should not do the Salsa thing and just go for coffee or something? We were in a bar with a group of people tonight and chatted quite a bit but I still think we could do with getting to know each other a bit more. So do you think somewhere for coffee as a first date? How many dates before we watch the DVDs? I'm a bit wary as the last guy I was seeing took things really fast and I just got dragged along and I don't want that to happen again as it was a disaster!
Allisha Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Hmm, a first date house date.... I definitely advise going out somewhere instead. I know not everyone is the same, but you're best to play this cool so there's no expectation or confusion. Just say "hey, I'm really in the mood to go out this weekend..lets go salsa/blahblah/whatever and save the movies for another night? :)" Oh and - your gut instinct made you question this, hence the thread. Trust your gut instinct and follow it. Always.
Author kbme311 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Hmm, a first date house date.... I definitely advise going out somewhere instead. I know not everyone is the same, but you're best to play this cool so there's no expectation or confusion. Just say "hey, I'm really in the mood to go out this weekend..lets go salsa/blahblah/whatever and save the movies for another night? :)" Oh and - your gut instinct made you question this, hence the thread. Trust your gut instinct and follow it. Always. Thanks:) He did suggest doing other stuff as well not just watching the DVDs, he said we can practice Salsa - we met in a Salsa class - or go for food or something so I think I'll bring the DVDs along on Saturday and just lend them to him. I just don't want there to be expectation in the air and it to be awkward:D Maybe go for coffee then Salsa so we can talk more. I'll also make it very clear at the beginning of the date that I'm going home etc If he's just after one thing I'm sure he'll disappear pretty quickly if he doesn't get the one thing and I get to practice my Salsa so it cant' do me any harm:) Can anyone give me advice on how to play it slow? Do we just see each other once a week for a couple of months or less? Do I keep it casual and not call him and stuff - I'm not really sure....
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