Author J0N Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 Exactly what dng says. I just had a very weird indirect encounter with my ex through her friend messaging me on OKC. I replied back and indirectly broke NC. I know what I said probably got back to my ex. It was a setback, even though I didn't initiate the correspondence and I didn't reply directly to my ex. If your ex wants to talk to you about the relationship, she knows how to get ahold of you. She dumped you out of the blue. You deserve better than that. GP, I guarantee you that your ex was behind that in someway or another, it definitely got to her. Not a doubt in my mind. How are you doing these days? Getting over it? Our ex's both left us at about the same time if I recall?
0hpenelope Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 In terms of what 0hPenelope? Ah, nevermind. I missed that you blocked her even on Google+. It's really interesting to see how sometimes, even though we're not asking for it, a small tidbit of information just gets us all in a tizzy. You and GP have me afraid now. Hopefully no breadcrumbs will be tossed my way because it absolutely sucks. Even when the slight contact is in a satellite fashion (ie. your G+ invite), there's still an effect. In terms of recovery, a year's too soon for some and a year's long enough for others. I'm still in touch with my mutual friends w/ ex. I'm not sure if I shared that w/ you in a previous thread, but I was friends with them before I met him and when I befriended them, he was already friends with them though he and I didn't know each other. I'm saying my goodbyes very soon. I finally accepted I can't handle contact with them and being paranoid about anything I say to them even reaching my ex is just no good for me. So that's why I responded to your situation so strongly. Being in touch in any way or fashion when the person's not ready is such a "hold back," if you know what I mean. There's a bunch of other stuff that I haven't shared here, but I wanted to share the main points and let you know where my perspectives from the 1st paragraph were coming from. I'm finding that it's getting more difficult to be dismissive of social media. Break ups in "the good ol' days" were hard enough as they were, but adding the new dimension of Facebook, G+, etc. is just poking at the wound even more.
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