OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Well just finished my second date with the girl ive been talkin few weeks now.well we went bowling and had alot of so far so good.after that we headed to some burger place she wanted me to try.while at dinner we joked alot and i even made plans for the next outing.at this point all signs pointed to a perfect night out but not so fast.well we said our goodbyes both of us were smiling alot i went in for the kiss she said im sorry i dont wanna kiss.i cracked a joked saying well thats wierd and she said sorry .i was like rightttt.later and walked away. Im beyond mad but more then anything i feel salty
johan Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 ...i went in for the kiss she said im sorry i dont wanna kiss. The right response would have been, "when did this get to be about what you want?"
chuckles11 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Well just finished my second date with the girl ive been talkin few weeks now.well we went bowling and had alot of so far so good.after that we headed to some burger place she wanted me to try.while at dinner we joked alot and i even made plans for the next outing.at this point all signs pointed to a perfect night out but not so fast.well we said our goodbyes both of us were smiling alot i went in for the kiss she said im sorry i dont wanna kiss.i cracked a joked saying well thats wierd and she said sorry .i was like rightttt.later and walked away. Im beyond mad but more then anything i feel salty I think you made the right decision. That sounds to me like someone who is not particularly attracted to you, and if I were you I'd have no interest in dating someone who is going out with me with the hopes that I eventually grow on them.
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Were you trying to kiss her in public? In her car i got dropped off at the train station then tried to lean over.so do i.even contact said i had a great time and make no mention of what happened. Lol no my breathe was good
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Tbh pierre ive always heard if you dont get a kiss after date 2 shes not into you i dunno.ya.seems we really click well guess i should have tried holding hands before jumping to a kiss.ugh embaressed
bson1257 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Well just finished my second date with the girl ive been talkin few weeks now.well we went bowling and had alot of so far so good.after that we headed to some burger place she wanted me to try.while at dinner we joked alot and i even made plans for the next outing.at this point all signs pointed to a perfect night out but not so fast.well we said our goodbyes both of us were smiling alot i went in for the kiss she said im sorry i dont wanna kiss.i cracked a joked saying well thats wierd and she said sorry .i was like rightttt.later and walked away. Im beyond mad but more then anything i feel salty Whenever I hear stories like this it makes it even harder for me to want to go out on dates. If that happened to me, I would be so mad and embarrassed that I don't know if I would ever let it go.
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 This girl may be a keeper. If that is the case you will have to wait. If you stop dating her because she did not kiss on the 2nd date or had sex on the 3rd date she will confirm you were not a nice guy. This is what it looks like from the other side. Why so many rules? It is better to take it real slow. Do you dig her? I think it is cool she declined the kiss. That would not bother me one bit.well only reason it does im gonna be even.more unsure the next time .i have yet to text or call or what should i say .i dig her alot meh
Lucky_One Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Does she have the beginnings of a cold sore, and she was too embarrassed to bring that up?
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Who cares if she did not want to kiss so soon? Some great romances start off by the woman hating the guts of the guy courting her. Do not take this so personally and text again. Act like it is no big deal, but do not try to kiss her again. If she is interested she will go out again. Maybe she will be the one that will try to kiss you. Maybe you can play hard to get. Have fun! Where is the fun? Why all these rules about kiss 2nd date and **** 3rd date? Where is the romance? True true well i texted her saying i had a really nice time.
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Guesd i spoke to soon she text me this It's been nice meeting you but I just don't think its going to work out. You're a really nice person and I Wish you the best of luck
rafallus Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Were you constantly pushing things physically during a date itself? If you have barely touched her, then coming from a mile for kiss, like in movies, never works out well.
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 I didnt push anything but like you said i didnt touch her.well we talked texted for a few heres some bits from it. I just felt no connection at the end so i have a feeling its not gonna work. I think for now we could be friends plus that kiss was to forward last one confused me did she mean to soon.anyway if after that would trying to salvage this be good or if after 2 dates she felt no connection there isnt gonna be one
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 So whats everyone think of those last few text .
alethean Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I didnt push anything but like you said i didnt touch her.well we talked texted for a few heres some bits from it. I just felt no connection at the end so i have a feeling its not gonna work. I think for now we could be friends plus that kiss was to forward last one confused me did she mean to soon.anyway if after that would trying to salvage this be good or if after 2 dates she felt no connection there isnt gonna be one Yeah, she meant too soon, or too "out of the blue" and unexpected since you didn't touch her or anything during the date. I wouldn't try to salvage this one if I were you. Some people place a lot of value on the immediate connection or chemistry, and she sounds like one of them (when she said she felt no connection). If that's the case, then there's not much you can do to change your mind.
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 First of all, both of you have to learn the difference between "to" and "too". Secondly, weren't you the same guy who texted your ex-gf asking for your stuff back and then was all confused when she didn't respond with a gushing love letter begging for you to come back to her? Bottom line is that your expectations are way out of line with reality...the best suggestion is to actually take time to pay attention to what the woman is saying/conveying and then take your cue from there, instead of just bulldozing forward and expecting her to play along.
alethean Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I meant "change her mind" in that other post, btw. Durn editing!
rafallus Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I didnt push anything but like you said i didnt touch her.well we talked texted for a few heres some bits from it. I just felt no connection at the end so i have a feeling its not gonna work. I think for now we could be friends plus that kiss was to forward last one confused me did she mean to soon.anyway if after that would trying to salvage this be good or if after 2 dates she felt no connection there isnt gonna be one So yeah, that was it. For future, you may want to arrange first (that was second, but sooner you let it be known you are interested, the better) dates so that ability to make physical contact isn't hindered.
Jynxx Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Some other women would have sex with you and then drop you. It is better this way. No it isn't
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 So yeah, that was it. For future, you may want to arrange first (that was second, but sooner you let it be known you are interested, the better) dates so that ability to make physical contact isn't hindered.ya but she must have been interested why even agree to a third date if there is no connection.like i said the whole date was good then came the kiss she flipped 180.
iJester Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 RedRussian, was that serious advice. If it was, you should ascend the nearest rooftop of 5 stories or greater, and take the fast way down.
iJester Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I'm guy, and there is no god...guess I'm stuck like this. I do apologize for my harsh comment to you, but your advice was awful, and made you look like a far bigger jackass than myself. You told this guy to text this woman an entire paragraph to say he doesn't care. I guess it makes sense if you're a drunk, retard, but to everyone else it's completely transparent, ****in idiot.
rafallus Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 (edited) ya but she must have been interested why even agree to a third date if there is no connection.like i said the whole date was good then came the kiss she flipped 180. Sort of. There is not one preset time by which you should be kissing or having sex. IMO she didn't got discouraged that quickly and was willing to wait several dates for you to make your moves. Well, you kinda did, but you made too huge of a leap (from nearly no touching to kiss attempt). In fact, I remember getting pushed away from attempting such thing once. It gets seemingly weirder, because: 1)She kissed me before 2)She was initiating makeout sessions several minutes later. So you need to be more "in the moment" and not cling to something you did right or wrong - even if it was several minutes ago. Edited July 7, 2011 by rafallus
Author OCCDAVE Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 I texted her a short text yesday afternoon saying so how about this nice weather we have.i got no reply she leaves for ny friday and prior to the downfall was gonna call.me monday.see theres a sporting event we both planned on going to the 17th.dunno should i.try keeping a friendship we did have so much in common . My friend said let her pay her ticket then day or two then me like ya i enjoyed the event thanks plz lose my number lol
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 You just don't get it do you. Your ex-gf doesn't respond to your text about picking things up = SHE DOES NOT WANT TO SEE YOU ANYMORE. This girl that does not want to kiss you and does not respond to your text = SHE DOES NOT WANT TO SEE YOU ANYMORE. Keep on texting these chicks and you're just going to be that pyscho stalker guy when they tell stories about psycho stalker guys to their friends.
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