do we have any chance to get back together after this :( i need your point of view

[VELVET21]

My boyfriend broke up with me on monday...we had a LDR i met him a year ago and dated him for 6 month..he lives like an hour away from me the problem was that he had a busy schedule and when he was off work i had to work so we barely see each other still we talked everyday(text,calls)

 

My birthday was last week, he said he wanted to spend that day with me but he had to work..I was a bit upset about it but still i understood. what pissed me off was that he was off the next day and still i didnt see him. I mean it was my birthday!

I sent him an email on friday just telling him we needed to spend more time together and that i need him to put some more efford on the relationship i even told him that i knew its hard for him to come so i didnt mind going to see him even if it was for a lil bit and telling him it hurt that he couldnt see me on my bday.

 

The next day i got no answer from him so i text him but still nothing. i waited all weekend. This monday i woke up and he blocked me from facebook i texted him like crazy asking him to at least tell me if what we had was real for him or just a game, almost begging him to answer and calling like crazy; after a few texts he said:"i wasnt playing what we had was real it was real dont make thing harder than it is" and turned off his phone :(y heart is broken...does he need time or s

 

I kept emailing him asking for a chance to talk about thing at least be friends but again he didnt answer.

When i logged on my computer i saw a mail on the spam folder that was sent on saturday(FML) since it was on the spam folder i didnt get it on my fone..

On that email he told me that i mean soo much to him he loves me and hes sorry he made me feel less than what i really was that his schedule was messed up andwas going to get even more crazy cuz hes going back to school in fall that it was better if we go our own ways even tho he loves me soo much and he didnt want to hurt me more

 

its been 3 days and ive been emailing him but hes been so cold and heartless about this he wont answer my emails or called me :(this hurt sooo bad i feel like he didnt care about me after telling me he lovess me..this morning i sent him a last email telling him goodbye i dont hate him im just hurt i feel like mhould i just move on and let him go...

[HeartOfAPhoenix]

welcome to the merry-go-round-of-madness.

 

In short, Just let him go.

 

 

Long format: Go NC, stop emailing, checking facebook, texting, calling, or any other form of communication with him. In the first few stages of healing you will have that hope of getting back together and it is perfectly fine, but don't contact him and expect it to change anything. Don't wait for him either.

 

he broke up with you. now is the time to stay strong, pick up the pieces, and move on with your life. when you have strong urges to contact him or just need to vent you can create another thread here, people will give their thoughts on whatever matter you present to them. work on yourself, pick up new hobbies, focus on old hobbies, hang out with friends, and stay busy it really helps.

[Kilty]

Sorry to hear of your situation

 

Unfortunately I'm afraid you have to let go - there is nothing more you can do apart from make things worse and give yourself more heartbreak.

 

It seems there was no reason for the break up apart from not seeing enough of each other so for him to completely break it off and say so little is not good.

 

I guess he may open up in time & explain but thats only going to happen if you completely back off and say no more - and even then it would really have to be something real good for you to forgive after this.

 

LDR's for a lot of people are convenient as they require very little committment apart from staying in touch now and again as long as the other partner is happy with that arrangement - in other words they still have their own life outside the relationship - and the relationship comes second.

 

In other situations the opposite would apply.

 

I wont even go down the road of trying to guess what the real reasons are behind his actions and i dont think you should either as its more than likely you wont want to know.

 

Im afraid you are just going to have to give up and try and move on and return the favour by ignoring any future attempts at breadcrumbs from this guy - thats if he has the decency to open up and come clean.

 

Im glad you have joined LS and we are always here to try and help.

 

Sorry x

[VELVET21]

thanks..deep inside i know he wont be contacting me:( it just hurts that it seems i didnt mean much for him even tho he even talked about moving in together and stuff ..guess it is what it is right...

[VELVET21]

exactly..thats what i kept telling him on the emails that we could work things out not just break up like this...but he wont even try meet me half way..i made a hugeeee fool of myself this last days i kept almost begging for an answer but he just didnt wanted too...