getsback Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 My ex broke up with me months ago now. At first she would talk to me via cell and e-mail, but for the last couple of months she hasn't said a word to me. Anyway over the last few weeks, I have seen her out clubbing a couple of times and each time she has just refused to acknowledge my exsistance. I have caught her looking in my direction a couple of times, but nothing more then that. But she won't even say a casual or polite hello. Now I know this girl dosnt have any feelings for me and she dosnt want me back, I know that. So why ignore me? I text her the morning after the last time I saw her out saying it was a bit awakward us being in the same place and acting like we don't exsist. But she ignored that too! Its fine, I don't have a problem with it if that's how she wants to be. I just don't quite understand the mentality of it. If your over someone and don't care anymore, a polite hello wouldn't be a problem I wouldn't have thought. Am I missing something here?
Chi townD Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 She's probably at the club looking to hook up with someone and you being there is cramping her. OR she's there with someone and doesn't want you to cause a scene.
O_O Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 My ex broke up with me months ago now. At first she would talk to me via cell and e-mail, but for the last couple of months she hasn't said a word to me. Anyway over the last few weeks, I have seen her out clubbing a couple of times and each time she has just refused to acknowledge my exsistance. I have caught her looking in my direction a couple of times, but nothing more then that. But she won't even say a casual or polite hello. Now I know this girl dosnt have any feelings for me and she dosnt want me back, I know that. So why ignore me? I text her the morning after the last time I saw her out saying it was a bit awakward us being in the same place and acting like we don't exsist. But she ignored that too! Its fine, I don't have a problem with it if that's how she wants to be. I just don't quite understand the mentality of it. If your over someone and don't care anymore, a polite hello wouldn't be a problem I wouldn't have thought. Am I missing something here? You can not really care and still find it unpleasant to interact with someone. I'd wager that she doesn't say hi because she doesn't see any possible upside for herself from engaging with you. It's not super mature, but it's also her choice.
Kilty Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Why would you want to keep in touch after the break up and how persistant were you in trying for reconciliation ? If it was her that ended the relationship she maybe only replied initially as she was feeling guilty and/or didnt want to hurt you anymore. She may have thought you were having trouble accepting the break up by being in contact with her and eventually just stopped replying. And now ignoring you in public is an extension of this. Did you go overboard after the break up and freak her out any ? Did she try and get back with you and you rebuffed her ? Have you been with someone else since the break up ? Has any skeletons in the relationship cupboard surfaced since the break up ? Really only she will know why she is ignoring you but as the above poster said we would really need to know more of the background.
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