arbrne_vet Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 So, when you go NC, do i tell her i am not talking to her anymore, or do i just do it. what do i say or do if she calls or texts? not sure how to go about this. need some advice, guidance. so to answer questions off the bat, my purpose... have realized it is over, no matter what i do. i am throwing in the towel so to speak. thanks in advance.
just_scott Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 i guess you could have a choice with ''no contact'' you caould tell the other person you need space , or you can just ignore them if they contact you and let them get the message I think most don't say ''we're going no contact'' and just do it IF you know it's over and nothing you're gonna say or do is gonna help and she calls, or texts just ignore them .no contact is more about you and healing and grieveing the break up then the other person or trying to win them bacck
sun_moon Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 go NC, you dont have to announce anything. Nike says it best, just do it.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 go NC, you dont have to announce anything. Nike says it best, just do it. I suppose that all depends. If you were the dumper and you decided to just up and stop talking to the dumpee, there might be some slight resentment. However, since 99.99% of the people who come to this forum are dumpees, I say just go for it. If the other person broke up with you, then I say you don't owe them jack. Let's just say that I'm a dumpee and my ex just stopped talking to me one day out of nowhere and I haven't heard anything from her since. Sure, I'm glad that she didn't string me along and give me a bunch of BS along the way. However, a warning would have been nice. Even a small text saying "I don't think we should talk anymore" or "I need my space for a while, I'll call you when I'm ready, if I'm ever ready or choose to do so". Let's just say, due to her choice of actions, if she does come around looking to be friends in the future, I don't think I'm going to be willing to make that happen. Therefore, if you're looking at possibly being friends one day, perhaps you should give your ex a heads up. It's your call.
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