RedDoll Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Hi..my first post on here. So here's my situation: I've been dating a guy long distance for over a year now (5 hours driving). We go to different colleges and are entering our junior year. It's been a rollercoaster of good and bad the past 6 months, but I always had this feeling that no matter what we would make it through and end up together after college. A lot of factors have made me doubt our relationship in the past such as: his mom not accepting me, having different humor, he's culturally different than I am, and my parents don't think he's the one for me (not that they don't like him but they just don't see him with me forever). We had broken up once before for a day (he did it) but it was because he was stressed for exams and I was being clingy. Recently he broke up with me again because we've been having problems and he felt really insecure, he realized 10 minutes later that he regretted it but I didn't take him back. After a few days I told him I couldn't do it anymore because I lost that feeling of "together forever" I just feel like we can't make it through the long distance. He called me back a couple days later begging for me back and told me his mom accepts me now and that he'll visit me more often and that he's learned from this break up what he's been doing wrong. I took him back but after a day I didn't feel right and tried to break it off again but wound up telling him I'll think about it. He's just such a good person and boyfriend and it pains me so much to think I won't ever see or talk to him again. I know that he's not a bad guy to be with, but it's just the long distance. I dread it. I don't know if I can build my trust back for him because it will take a long time. Do you think it's worth it? sorry it's so long... >__<
madjac74 Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 I just dont believe the college experience will work in an LDR let alone any relationship especially when it's obvious there is a lack of trust already. College is the worst place for your bf/gf to be if there is no trust.
Author RedDoll Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 I do feel like it's time to end it, but he's just such a good person and I do still enjoy talking to him. I don't know how to go about ending it because he wants to me keep trying. I'm afraid if I just keep trying then it will never end and I'll just stay with him anyways. On the other hand I'm worried that I'm making a mistake
JadedAmore Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 It's something you'll ultimately have to decide on, you can't hang in limbo forever. But yeah... if there's no trust, you're going to have bigger problems down the road than you do now. Good luck!
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