lauriestrode Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Hey Guys, I have no idea why these movies keep glorifying friends with benefits and f*ck buddies. Read this blog about the film and he shares his personal experience with having a friend with "benefits." Everybody can relate to this! Comment and discuss your own experiences! http://personalsfacts.com/2011/07/06/the-painful-friends-with-benefits-cycle/
Author lauriestrode Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 Very well thought out reply! I always think that a lot of women don't realize they are to blame as well for the mishaps that come from miscommunication. These movies are just like SATC, they promote unhealthy ways of finding relationships.
TigerCub Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 FWB's only ever work if it's an even balance of desire-that means both parties want the exact same thing. The article portrayed a girl who wanted more, who slept with a guy that said he didn't want more to make him want more. It's the classic FWB mishap. Contrary to popular belief, FWBs do not have to end in such a way, or be played out in such a way. My FWB worked quite well I'm amazed to say. I wouldn't particularly say we were "friends" but I think we morphed quite close into that category. It worked because we only saw/spoke to each other when we wanted sex. And when we spoke, it was about sex. Keep it sex-related and you're good to go. Agreed! My FWB was the same way, well except that the talk wasn't just about sex, we could just shoot the breeze, but neither one of us wanted what we had to be more than sex. That's why it worked, and it was awesome. People have to be honest with themselves about their ability to have unattached sex (not to sound sexist, but a lot of girls can't do that), and they need to know themselves and what they can and can't do. Second, definitely need to be on the same page with the FWB friend. If all that happens, then it would be a successful arrangement, IME.
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