shawn923 Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Ok so im about a month straight now of strict NC, after months of on and off NC. Long story short she dumped me and i made all the mistakes trying to get her back. She even rebounded with another guy at my same school... Now im about 90% over her, and she adds me back on fb out the blue. I have been dating and I have no interest in dating her again like i did before. Im tired of going thru circles with her, my feelings have changed. So what to do about this situation? I havent added her yet...
amethyste Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Probably she's playing games. I think you shouldn't add her. Deny her request & block her if neccessary.
azsinglegal Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Probably she's playing games. I think you shouldn't add her. Deny her request & block her if neccessary. ^^ This She probably just wants to know whats going on in your life again and if you're seeing anyone. Never a good idea to add an ex back to FB.
Author shawn923 Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 I agree with u both which is why I didnt do it. lets say i add her and see she's in a new relationship? I would probably still be hurt... So im not gonna take that chance. I've never actually pressed "reject" on a friend request, i usually just dont add the person. Im gonna do the same here. I'll just totally ignore it.
radiodarcy Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 good move, shawn! yeah, you'd be surprised how fast you can go from being 90% over someone right back to 0% when you see those dreaded words: "in a relationship" :\
poorguy Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 All that is happening is that she is becoming very curious as to what you are up to. Young woman are like cats when it comes to being inquisitive..Literally they are like cats...just cant help themselves!!! Wonder if thats why they call it p_ssy? Anyway F facebook just the same You are doing the right thing by not adding or rejecting...NC is all about doing nothing, no reactions....just a bunch of nothing
FinOuch Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 I'm curious as to who unfriended who. I'm assuming you, since you were the dumpee. Regardless, chances are she's just looking for attention. Unless you know beyond any shadow of a doubt that both of you are completely over it...then I see no reason at all to refriend! (and even both being over it, there's still arguably no reason)
Layzie89 Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 You've come a long way shawn and I'm here to reassure you that ignoring her friend request is the best thing you could do right now. That chapter of your life is done, leave it be and keep walking. Good job man
azsinglegal Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 All that is happening is that she is becoming very curious as to what you are up to. Young woman are like cats when it comes to being inquisitive..Literally they are like cats...just cant help themselves!!! Wonder if thats why they call it p_ssy? Anyway F facebook just the same You are doing the right thing by not adding or rejecting...NC is all about doing nothing, no reactions....just a bunch of nothing Agreed. I check out my ex's FB page and his new wife about once a week. All I can see is the profile pic, but really...that's enough. If I had access to either of their pages, I'd probably be in pretty bad shape and unable to move on.
Author shawn923 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Yea i was the one who erased her. I just didnt want her apart of my life anymore... And yea i know im over her enough to the point where i no longer think of her 24/7, i've been dating, and i actually WANT to find a new gf. I dont want a 2nd chance with her now, i've tried too long and did everything i could and she dropped me on face time n time again. If she wants to contact me, she'll blow up my phone and make a fool of herself just like i did a few months ago. Then i'll politely let her know I will never date you again. And we can also not be friends at this point because im not 100% over her... Im sure a picture of her kissing another guy will still hurt me, so theres no use in even attempting to see!
FinOuch Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Yea i was the one who erased her. She dumped you. You erased her. Now she wants to refriend. This sounds like classic attention-seeking behavior. The sucky truth is that she likely doesn't really want you as a friend. She wants some sort of indication that you still want her. Don't play her silly games.
Surf Rider Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 She dumped you. You erased her. Now she wants to refriend. This sounds like classic attention-seeking behavior. The sucky truth is that she likely doesn't really want you as a friend. She wants some sort of indication that you still want her. Don't play her silly games. Agreed 100%. She is playing games. Do not add her. Block her.
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