DublAK2 Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 2 years ago: I met this girl on the beach two years ago or so (I'm a lifeguard). Her friend just cavalierly introduced us really quick. The girl was gorgeous and at the time I couldn't really come up with anything good to say to make her laugh. Couple days later she facebook friends me and sends me a message formally introducing herself. Wow! We chatted quite a bit and things went great so I asked her to go out with me. I took her to a movie and unfortunately I was so nervous the night before that I did not sleep and ended up cat napping during the movie. She was polite about it when I took her home, but the next day she wrote me something along the lines of "Hey I don't know how you feel about last night, but I didn't really think you were feeling it. I'm sorry I had you take me out." BLEW IT! Tried to apologize a million times but to no avail. The Interim: After that I would chat her up every so often to see if she still hated me. Maybe every other month or so I'd check in, just enough to not be forgotten. She was still in college while I had graduated so I knew that she was too busy for me, but I enjoyed talking to the girl so I would talk to her infrequently for fun, not really putting a whole lot of stock into it. Present: Back in May I meant to FB my buddy and clicked her name by accident and sent her a message. I didn't embarass myself or anything and it actually lead into a good conversation. She is 21 now and I live in a pretty good party/beach town. So while I was going back to school for summer classes she would text me when she was out at the bars asking where I was. Took me a while to meet up with her, but finally my buddies told me she was at a bar with them and she was asking for me. Went over there, met her, Started talking, Went bar hopping with her, danced with her, held her hand on the way back to her friends, we fooled around. She didn't want to go below any belt lines which was fine with me because she was hands down the best kisser I have ever had, which is something I pride myself on and I think I met my match. She dropped me off at work the next day, kissed me good-bye and I told her I wanted to see her again and she agreed. Pumped! Then I found out that an acquaintance made out with her two weeks prior on one of the nights I couldn't go out. Bummed. I liked her enough to not to care about a silly make out and texted her to ask if she would be out at all the following week. No reply. Bumped into her at a bar no knowing she was going to be there. She goes "oh yeah I'll be around this week". basically admitting she go my text and purposely didn't respond. I went out a different night and saw her again talking to guys. I didn't say hello. She eventually saw me, ditched the dudes, came over excited to say hello to me. For about an hour she was hugging onto me and holding my hands, and I was making her laugh. She was leaving for a party and she told me to call her later that night to hang out. She planted a huge kiss on me and left. Called her, no answer, text 20 minutes later, no answer. Couple days later I FB chatted her up again sort of playfully calling her out on it. She said that she was notoriously bad at responding to her phone according to her friends. I told her I wanted to meet up with her again she said that I would just have to try my luck and see if she responds. I don't fall for girls very often. In the past I've been a little bit of a playboy. But when I do fall, I fall hard. This girl is making my lose sleep, I can't study, and she has got my head completely spinning. Is she stringing me along or does she like me? When we are in the same room she won't let go of me and makes me melt, when I'm trying to contact her she won't answer. On top of that she made out with my friend. Any guesses to whats up. I typically do pretty decent with girls but this time I'm mystified.
Author DublAK2 Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 If there was low interest why would she reach out to me originally to meet up? When she is with me she always finds my hands with hers and she is staring into my eyes. And one night she even rubbed my back until I fell asleep. I've even had people that I haven't seen in some time come up to me to say "I didn't know you had a girlfriend now." I just don't buy that there is no interest on her behalf. It doesn't make sense. I want to take her out on a date to get a better bead on things, but I fear she won't get back to me.
thatone Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 she won't get back to you, she gets off on the attention you give her. she won't change no matter what you do. wanna stop losing sleep? disappear for about a week and when she calls you, you tell her no. then you'll sleep like a baby.
Author DublAK2 Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 you guys might be right. But I just feel like I owe it to myself to attempt some more steps forward so I can stop debating every subtle move from her. She's going to need to be much more overtly disinterested in me especially when she holds on to me in the bar, and has initiated contact with me 2 years ago and the most recent period. When she tells me to get lost, I will and I'll lay my head to rest. I'm definitely losing my cool on this one which uncharacteristic, but I just have to find out for certain and put my ego aside.
Bullet Proof Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 she won't get back to you, she gets off on the attention you give her. she won't change no matter what you do. wanna stop losing sleep? disappear for about a week and when she calls you, you tell her no. then you'll sleep like a baby. I agree, I wouldn't contact her any further. She obviously doesn't care enough to respond or show any interest by contacting you first. Forget about her and move on.
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