micot Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 well last night my ex who i was with for 6 yrs and apart for for about 2 months now. well she stopped over last night to pick up a necklace she left here[ i knew she was comming and i was o.k. with that ] we talked about general things for a few , then i took her hand sat across from her and said we've been honest with each other right ? and honesty is the best poicy , she agreed i said you're with someone now aren't you ? she just looked at me i said i've seen you with some guy , and others have and told me I just want to kow if you were with him while we were together ,i never got a definate answer i did get i don't have to tell yo anything i'm doing , i said no you don't have to i just want to know tis because we both talked about cheating before and we said we were both against it . she told me she wasn't aking if i was with anyone and she didn't care if i was.i jjust said i wanted to know if you were with him while we were together and if that was the reason for the break up she got aall nervous and said she had to leave for an emergency she left quickly .I called her about an hour later ,she answerd i sai i just wanted to make sure you got home alright ,she said she did . i told her i am not trying to cause problems between us or anything i just wanted to know something ,we talked a bit she said she considers me a friend and cares about me as a friend ,i told her we've always been friends and that we both invested 6 years into something and didn't think anything was bad and maybe we ould meet up time to time and see if we can start over or is that door cemented shut ,she said no doors are closed she's just doing things she wants to do now,she thiks of me and worries about me as a friend IF she has cheated on me wouldn't she feel much better just getting it out , and then see were we stand ? I know she is at least seeing someone for sure
PegNosePete Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 we both talked about cheating before and we said we were both against it . Well yes, they all say that. She's hardly going to say "oh yeah cheating is fine, go ahead knock yourself out, in fact here's my girlfriend's number if you fancy a shag she'd be up for it", now is she???? Who cares dude, it's over and done. In the past. Put it behind you where it belongs. Stop torturing yourself with this "friendship" bollox and NC dude.
dark_perfect Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Hi, Well that sucks, and judging from her response, it doesn't look too good. I can definitely understand why simply knowing will help, and I don't know what to suggest other that trying to explain that you'd just like to know for your own peace of mind and suggesting that it might make her feel better, too. Of course, there's always the chance that she wasn't cheating...
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