heart_breaker Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 (edited) oka im new to this so here we go. the man im dating i went to school with him and the baby mama. we have never dated befor but we messed around alot. He has one little boy right now and going to have aonther one in oct. what my problem is he will tell me one time he dnt have feels for the baby mama but when he drinks he tells me she holds a part of his heart. We both love each other have for a while and im worried when the other baby gets here he will end up back with the baby mama and i dnt know if anyone has any ideas on how to handle this or what to do. some one shed some light on this for me please. ps im worried bout my heart gettin broke agian Edited July 6, 2011 by heart_breaker more info
Eeyore79 Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 I agree: the best thing to do is to leave right away. This man is emotionally unavailable and you'll only end up getting hurt, plus you don't want to be involved in a love triangle between him and the baby mama.
SoleMate Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Leave him, and look for someone who has at most one illegitimate child by a former relationship. The first one could be a mistake, but the second occurrence is just downright irresponsible and thoughtless.
nice-easy-day Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 get pregnant by him. then you'll have him for the rest of your life.
TaraMaiden Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Find a different man. One who's responsible and knows what a condom is for. This guy is legally accountable to both women - the mother of his child, and the mother of his future child. He might also be held responsible (quite rightly) for financial maintenance. By both of them. Trust me, there are far better options out there. All this is doing is messing with your mind. I'll bet he tells these two women how much he loves them, too....
TigerCub Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Believe what he tells you when he's drunk - that's when his filter isn't properly set. Also, those kids are going to tie him to baby mama forever. Do you want a relationship where she's always in the picture, they share something that you and him don't. find someone with less baggage.
sm1tten Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Just the title alone made me think "run away, run far far away" but then the actual OP is even worse.
Author heart_breaker Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 its the same woman thats bout to have his second kid but there is a chance the new one is not his and we have had a passon for each other since 2006 befor they even dated
Mimolicious Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Find yourself another dude and go back to school. Unless you're just fine with being side-piece. I mean, obviously he's not the best example of a "good catch" from what you are saying. Cut it out and stop messing around or else you'll be getting a new title soon. Baby Momma #2. Don't fool yourself about the kid not being his either. At the end of the day, that is not your business. Raise your standards in dating and you will have better luck.
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