Author Mark1 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 I think I'll be okay if I don't go in and get emotionally attached to her. Link to post Share on other sites
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 So on one hand, I shouldn't ask her why she flirted in front of her bf, on the other hand i SHOULD guage her reaction about a 3sum? I'm not sure if she's into you for your reading comprehension...I said DO NOT bring up the topic of her boyfriend AT ALL. Make a mental note to self how many times you discuss her boyfriend with her -- after the third time, consider your chances shot to hell. Just a friendly word of advice from someone who's been in this situation before. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 I'm not sure if she's into you for your reading comprehension...I said DO NOT bring up the topic of her boyfriend AT ALL. Make a mental note to self how many times you discuss her boyfriend with her -- after the third time, consider your chances shot to hell. Just a friendly word of advice from someone who's been in this situation before. Totally misread your post, my fault. I will keep a mental note and report back. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Don't waste your money buying her dinner, take her out for coffee or a drink. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 Don't waste your money buying her dinner, take her out for coffee or a drink. Really good suggestion, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 I don't think coffee is a good idea. It makes your breath stink and coffee shops give off non-sexual vibes. I would stick with dinner, but if you want to be cheap go to an upscale lounge and have a drink in the corner or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 I don't think coffee is a good idea. It makes your breath stink and coffee shops give off non-sexual vibes. Ive never heard that about coffee - interesting! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 I have decided I am going to go and just see what happens, and see how she acts. I will probably pay for the meal, just cause thats how I roll. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 I have decided I am going to go and just see what happens, and see how she acts. I will probably pay for the meal, just cause thats how I roll. So, she’s probably going to show up to dinner just having f’ed and scked some dude maybe her bf. Then you are going to pay for her meal? You are a chump who is feeding this girls ego and debasing yourself because of fears of inadequacy that this is your only shot with a girl you like. Don’t pay for the meal. Heck cancel the meal and suggest you just have some drinks back at your place while watching a “movie” or “something.” Really the very best option is to find a sweet girl you are completely excited about and not settle for trouble like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 9, 2011 Author Share Posted July 9, 2011 Alright, I won't pay for the meal. Any ultimatum I can give her? Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 Alright, I won't pay for the meal. Any ultimatum I can give her? Just invite her over to your place for drinks and a “movie.” Then just make out with her and hope she doesn’t taste like some cum in her mouth to recently. What you should really do is go after a girl you really like. Not some girl that makes you feel dirty and ask “why do girls who have boyfriends flirt?” Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 why do girls who have boyfriends flirt? Because they enjoy it. And if they are both happy with that, there's no problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 So, she’s probably going to show up to dinner just having f’ed and scked some dude maybe her bf. Then you are going to pay for her meal? You are a chump who is feeding this girls ego and debasing yourself because of fears of inadequacy that this is your only shot with a girl you like. Don’t pay for the meal. Heck cancel the meal and suggest you just have some drinks back at your place while watching a “movie” or “something.” Really the very best option is to find a sweet girl you are completely excited about and not settle for trouble like this. I agree I don't think you should even bother with this girl. Whjy don't you find a girl who's actually genuine and doesn't cheat? Link to post Share on other sites
St.Rosa Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 I'm interested in what happens with all this - I say it all leads to disaster or some sort of drama. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 10, 2011 Author Share Posted July 10, 2011 Texted her about an hour ago, haven't heard back yet. Damn it. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Texted her about an hour ago, haven't heard back yet. Damn it. Man you really like this girl a little too much. I mean she’s just some cheating chick. Are you falling in love? You just sent the txt one hour ago. and you’re already on here worrying about it! What did the txt you sent say “what’s up?” Maybe you wrote something that pissed her bf off and they've been fighting about it for the past hour. Would that make you happy? Link to post Share on other sites
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 What's the update on this story. Link to post Share on other sites
singlelife Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 they either want some attention or at the most want a lil side piece. don't expect more than that. just go with the flow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 Update (not exciting) Last week we agreed dinner this Tues tentatively. Yesterday I texted her to see how her weekend was and if we were still on. No reply. I will text her Tuesday Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 I am trying my hardest not to chat with her on FB right now. Link to post Share on other sites
KatNYC Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 She's unhappy in her relationship She's insecure and requires the validation She is in an open relationship She's an idiot She has no morals She wants a free meal Just for kicks And so on an so forth. Could be a million reasons. All of which equal her being someone you should stay away from, but you probably won't judging by the fact that you know she has a boyfriend but are making plans to make goo goo eyes at her over dinner. Let us know how that works out, I'm sure it will be entertaining. good answer. in my opinion, insecurity is the root of all evil. it's ok to have fun banter with other guys, the occasional flirting doesn't hurt anyone...as long as it doesn't go too far. Giving away numbers or teasing a guy when the girl has a boyfriend is definitely a girl you want to stay away from. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Update (not exciting) Last week we agreed dinner this Tues tentatively. Yesterday I texted her to see how her weekend was and if we were still on. No reply. I will text her Tuesday Dude she’s cheating on her boyfriend and you are putting her on shout by sending such txts. If you’re looking for the nice “how was your weekend” relationship I suggest you get a real available girl. If you had your own girl instead of some loser guys girl you could have spent the weekend with her instead of lamely asking about it knowing full well the best you could hope for in an answer was “me and my bf are having a lot of fun this weekend.” Seriously, what is with the lame small talk. She has a boyfriend you don’t need to ask her how her weekend with him is going. As for you’re date thing I told you that it should be switched to just hanging out at your place and drinking. I mean if you have to order a small pizza or something. As for confirming your Tuesday “date” thing that should be done on Tuesday. Not the weekend. I am trying my hardest not to chat with her on FB right now. Trying your hardest? I’m confused what are you talking about? Do you have some lame urge to call her out “why didn’t you respond to my txt asking how your weekend was going and if we were still on for Tuesday!?” Are you completely obsessed with this girl? I hope you realize you are a bigger loser then her bf if you continue this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Lunch tomorrow... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 Pros -Very interested in me -Great fun to be around -Very touchy -Loved compliments -Great convo -Wants to get together Saturday night for a drink -Said twice she wants to "meet my friends" Cons -Lives with her BF -Been dating him for 4 years Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mark1 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 For as much grief as I got for this, you sure are slow on the replies. Seems like yall can dish the hate just fine though. Link to post Share on other sites
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