pacific1 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 NC for a week now, after breaking up and 2 years of living together (she left me for a new city... and a new guy) but I have a dilemma regarding all of her things she left in my apartment: clothes, ornaments, etc. It's very hard to not be constantly reminded of her with many of her possessions still lying around. Also, due to living together, my everyday household items, often hers initially, also get me thinking about her. I need to remove a lot of this stuff, replace it with other things to get on with my "fresh start" (I wish I felt fresh!). Do I pack it up in one big box and send it to her? I'm worried this will result in breaking NC get me all messed up again.
AlisaMarie Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Well keeping everything thing there isn't helping. I would put EVERYTHING and anything that reminds you of her in a box. Don't worry about sending it to her because if it were that important- she'd ask for it. Put in away in storage or in a friends garage, and if after a year goes by she doesn't mention her belongings, ditch em. Get new household items too. I gave my comforter to my dogs and got a new one. Even though I bought it- he slept on it. I could have washed it but it was still something that reminds me of him. I also am going to do some updates on my house- which I didn't have time to do before because I was too busy catering to him and his baby. I know it hurts and we all miss our exes, but seriously, the world isn't stopping so neither should you. Take this alone time and embrace it. Change whatever it is you are used to doing with her- and do some things that you'd never do before. I am just glad I get to watch whatever I want on tv at night!
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