jstobo Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Do you feel guilty? Do you feel empathy? Are you ashamed? What? What do you feel? I didn't abuse my Wife, cheat or gamble. I never lost my job, but I went from a ridiculous income to a great income overnight and things got tough financially. She never worked. In order for us to keep the kids in the same school, I needed to lease my STBX a place there while I moved away to a much smaller place. It was the only way I could pay for both places. Now I've lost the community, I've lost our friends, our traditions and a ton of time with my kids. She has lost nothing, since I am supporting her. Needless to say I am pretty pissed and want to know in what way she is suffering for breaking up the marriage. Because I am not seeing anything.
2010_Sorry Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 To get an answer for your question varies for so many of us based on situation. To some level, people feel guilty for leaving their spouse. They suffer the loss of going from a couple to a single and no longer having someone to with to share their life. I am sorry that you are going through this right now, but recognize that you are going through the pain of this loss. Not just for your spouse, but for your home, your family life, your community, etc. This is normal. It sounds crazy, but you will get through this and you will be better and stronger on the other end. Granted, you may not have the lavish things that she might have because she is getting your support, but remember... that's not what makes you who you are. Your heart is what defines you and gives you ultimate happiness. You will get there!
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