Cantcope Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 My ex and I broke up 7 weeks ago from a 2.5 year relationship. We just fought way too much...about everything. We were still in contact throughtout the 7 weeks. Contact would always start out nice and end in a fight. We each said "Good bye" about 200 times. So, I put on my big girl panties, decided the hurt was enough, not to mention the INCREDIBLE mixed signals he was sending. I went NC on Wednesday night. I've received 2 texts from him since then, both were ignored. I am seriously in love with this man. I want things to work like I've never wanted anything before.....but now..... I met someone. This guy really seems to have it all. He's looking for the same things out of life that I am. However....I found myself telling a friend "Wow...if I were single, I'd be all over him". HOLD ON!!! I AM SINGLE! Why won't my heart just be free of my ex and let me find what I want....something mutually beneficial. Here's where the fear comes in, and thanks for reading so much. Everyone is telling me that since I've met someone else and I'm trying to move on, my ex is probably going to flip out and show up at my door in hysterics, yada, yada, yada. Now, I know that not all cases are the same, but where this is something I had really wished for, now I'm worried about it. I think that I could really have something special with this new man...IN TIME....but if the ex shows up....I don't know that I can resist because he OWNS my heart. Please....you've read this much. Help....just kind words, advice...anything. Me scared.....
AlisaMarie Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I know how you feel. You actually feel like you are cheating or doing something wrong... but your ex is your ex! When me and my ex broke up last year, I went on a couple dates with some great guys... I just couldn't bring my heart to let anyone in even though they looked great on paper. I just wanted my ex back. I hate that feeling. Maybe talk to this new guy... tell him you are very much interested but you are going through a hard break up and you would like to take things slow.
sun_moon Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 My advice, take things slow, and casual. Be safe. Your ex will never stop "owning" your heart if you keep letting him back in, right? If you truly want the past relationship to be over, then keep to your NC, it makes things sooooo much easier. If you keep contact with the ex then your new potential person is just another rebound. Actually, if you haven't grieved the relationship properly and let enough time pass especially if you have contact, then this is a rebound anyway. Give something new a chance but honestly your probably not ready.
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