Author loveletters Posted July 8, 2011 Author Posted July 8, 2011 This mm is a predator.........and I bet this is not his 1st go around, it's one of many.:mad: Hon......please be telling the truth in that you are done with him. He will turn your life upside down and you are so young, you should be living carefree, having a great time, not making yourself available to a guy who will use you and spit you out when he is done. Please.....please stay away from him. It's definitely not his first time! Before we started actually seeing each other - he told me that he had an A for 2-3 years with another woman..... & a few other woman as well. He's been with his wife for 11 years. He told me that his first wife died of kidney failure. Which sorta scared me, because I watch Forensic Files, Snapped... & all of those other murder shows & I started thinking.... WHY ARE/WERE BOTH OF HIS WIVES ILL OF SOME SORT?! I've been thinking about everything he told me in the beginning... it hurts & makes me so mad. I was so foolish to get involved. I'm just glad I reached out to hear other people's opinions, it definitely helped. If I didn't come on this forum & hear some of the things you guys had to say, I would still be with him
waytogo Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 It's definitely not his first time! Before we started actually seeing each other - he told me that he had an A for 2-3 years with another woman..... & a few other woman as well. He's been with his wife for 11 years. He told me that his first wife died of kidney failure. Which sorta scared me, because I watch Forensic Files, Snapped... & all of those other murder shows & I started thinking.... WHY ARE/WERE BOTH OF HIS WIVES ILL OF SOME SORT?! I've been thinking about everything he told me in the beginning... it hurts & makes me so mad. I was so foolish to get involved. I'm just glad I reached out to hear other people's opinions, it definitely helped. If I didn't come on this forum & hear some of the things you guys had to say, I would still be with him This genious actually shared this much history with you? So glad he did and that you found help here to solidify your plan for yourself, to exclude him from your future. I've seen those shows also. It amazes me anyone puts a value on $100K over another persons' life. You'll not be sick wife #3, thank heavens. Don't worry about what you did,as much as you can help. Be glad for where and what you won't be.
Steadfast Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Don't get involved with someone who's life is coming to an end when yours is just beginning. WTF??! At 51-years of age, I take exception. 23-year-olds call me for lessons. So there. OP, run. His age isn't the factor, his life, history and character are.
heartbreaker Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 For as long as you are happy and is ready to face the consequences of your actions...go ahead! life is short, pursue your happiness!
TinaniT Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 I hope you're okay. It's probably a good idea to go sans relationships and with dating. It's hard to find yourself again after an abusive relationship, especially if you are young. There are a lot of men who will treat you well afterwards; but you should know that's not the sole factor of whether you should be with someone (though it seems like it after an abusive relationship). It should only be a minimum requirement. Good luck
Author loveletters Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 UPDATE: This man doesn't want to let me go! Yesterday he showed up at my place to drop off flowers ..... Ugh! I don't know what to do, I keep telling him it's over & no matter what I say he keeps pushing and pushing to be in my life.
fooled once Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 UPDATE: This man doesn't want to let me go! Yesterday he showed up at my place to drop off flowers ..... Ugh! I don't know what to do, I keep telling him it's over & no matter what I say he keeps pushing and pushing to be in my life. You realize that is a sign of danger, right? When a man won't respect you enough to let you go assuming you are being forceful telling him it's over. This man is dangerous.........my gut tells me, isn't it telling you the same thing? Ditto BB. Let him know that if he doesn't stop stalking you that you will file a harassment charge. Are you firm with him about leaving you alone? Are you still in physical contact (as in kissing, hugging, sex?) If so, you are not being clear to him. Shut the door in his face and take the flowers to a neighbor or a hospital.
whichwayisup Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 UPDATE: This man doesn't want to let me go! Yesterday he showed up at my place to drop off flowers ..... Ugh! I don't know what to do, I keep telling him it's over & no matter what I say he keeps pushing and pushing to be in my life. Tell him if he continues to bother you, you'll 1)tell his wife and 2)he'll have a nice visit with the Police with a restraining order to deal with. If he thinks you're bluffing, call the cops. See him run like hell and leave you alone.
SecretFlower Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Get out and get out now. He sees you as nothing more than a sweet little thing that he can use and keep as his trophy. I'm sorry but the gifts, pushiness and age difference are all signs that this is a bad relationship. Best of luck.
Emme Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 WTF??! At 51-years of age, I take exception. 23-year-olds call me for lessons. So there. Hey... you know what I mean. You even called her a trophy wife so you know what I mean. At 23 I was f*cking and partying my ass. Sometimes I don't even know how I made it to work on just 2 hours sleep max and still had energy. Looking out at the world to see what's next in this thing called life. She's just starting out in life. He's on his way out.. out meaning sitting at home watching the fire. Bones hurting pass the bengay. Need nap time. He's on his way out. At 50 he was on the hill ... at 51 he's on the way down. No disrespect intended. This girl better enjoy her youth. You can't get that sh*t back. :bunny:HUG:bunny:
Emme Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 UPDATE: This man doesn't want to let me go! Yesterday he showed up at my place to drop off flowers ..... Ugh! I don't know what to do, I keep telling him it's over & no matter what I say he keeps pushing and pushing to be in my life. Get one of your male friends. If he calls you at a certain time. Let your male friend pick up the phone. Have him deal with this MM who can't take a hint. If you don't want to stand your ground have someone else do it for you.
Author loveletters Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 (edited) Hey... you know what I mean. You even called her a trophy wife so you know what I mean. At 23 I was f*cking and partying my ass. Sometimes I don't even know how I made it to work on just 2 hours sleep max and still had energy. Looking out at the world to see what's next in this thing called life. She's just starting out in life. He's on his way out.. out meaning sitting at home watching the fire. Bones hurting pass the bengay. Need nap time. He's on his way out. At 50 he was on the hill ... at 51 he's on the way down. No disrespect intended. This girl better enjoy her youth. You can't get that sh*t back. :bunny:HUG:bunny: LOL... wow that made me laugh hard! I've been doing pretty well since I ended things with him, going out alot with friends, attending concerts & definitely enjoying my youth - he still randomly calls or texts.. He gets jealous when he sees me talking with other guys & I'm sick of it. I'm currently looking for another job because I can't stand being around him anymore.. He says he still loves me (which I dont even reply to, he tries to sneak in "i love yous & i miss yous" at work whenever he can) & it bugggsss me to the fullest. Like I want to start seeing him again but I know it's a very bad thing to do. Then he told me just the other day (at work, because I refuse to respond to his calls or texts) that its just another couple months until he leaves his wife, when he had told me that back in April ! WHATEVER Im too young to get married let alone play step-mommy to an 11 & 7 year old... Ha! He always throws these scenarios at me "So if we were married... so if we were living together" & I'm like "NO ITLL NEVER HAPPEN JUST STOP" Yesterday while I was at work, it was his day off and he came in with his son to introduce me to him (didnt expect that at all, i was in shock to even see him there!) he told me "i told my son that you're my girlfriend" - I didnt talk to them though, I totally ignored him once I saw him walk in, I ran the other way & I know that bothered him badly. Ughhhhh, I can't believe this! The more I think about what you ladies are telling me, the more infuriated & disgusted with this man I get! Edited July 28, 2011 by loveletters
NoIDidn't Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 The son must be seven years old. Disgusting that he's trying to use his kids to keep you around or try to persuade you. Sounds like the ladies have him pegged pretty well.
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