Ms.Jade Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I'm 24 years old and I have never been in a serious relationship in my life. I have the worst luck with guys.I find it hard to find men to date, it seems no guy is genuinely interested in getting to know me on a relationship level. I've tried online dating etc etc and things start off good but things eventually get sour with guys. They lose interest for whatever reason. Mostly if I like a guy it turns out that he's just never into me as I am with them. It's a frustrating pattern. I'm just recently trying to get over a guy who showed no interest in me whatsoever. A co-worker at that, he seemed to be very flirty with me at first and I eventually asked for his number, I called him and we had a short brief conversation. He never bothered calling me after that and he became distant, that was a month ago when I called him. Overall I'm just annoyed with not finding a guy.. I don't think I'm ugly, I get told I'm pretty and beautiful all of the time and that I have a great personality. But oddly I only hear that from women, men seem to treat me as if I'm invisible. Sigh I don't get it.
aj22one Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I'm a guy but the only advice I can give you is "join the club".
Woggle Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Deep down you take a fancy to unavailable men because deep down you are unavailable.
aj22one Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Could you give your email and phone No to the OP? Neither of us can send a PM yet unfortunately. The next best thing I suppose is to tie a yellow ribbon around the old oak tree.
oaks Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I'm just recently trying to get over a guy who showed no interest in me whatsoever. A co-worker at that, he seemed to be very flirty with me at first and I eventually asked for his number, I called him and we had a short brief conversation. He never bothered calling me after that and he became distant, that was a month ago when I called him. Tough love coming up... brace yourself. What was there to "get over" ? I thought you were going to go on to say that you're getting over a relationship that went sour, but you're trying to get over a guy who you had a phone call with? A month ago? Really, pull yourself together! That should take you about 5 minutes to a day to 'get over', not a month. Well done for taking the initiative on asking for his number, and I'm sorry that he wasn't interested.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 (edited) When only women tell you, you are pretty, it's like mother telling ugly kid he is cute. let me ask you, when guys lose interested is it right after sex or because no sex for a long time after a first Date? Edited July 5, 2011 by RedRussian8080
carhill Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 If you're looking for men who are want to get to know you at the relationship level, try focusing on older men, say closer to 30. Also, most healthy men your age, or most every age, won't take two months to 'get to know you' before meeting you, as you outlined in this thread. Most healthy men will be having sex with their girlfriend pretty regularly at that time point. Even a 'relationship minded' man like myself who takes his time makes note of that issue. If an anomaly, disregard. It did jump out at me when reading. Since this issue appears to have frustrated you for some time, if no resolution is forthcoming, then perhaps get some professional help, particularly if the same issues extend to non-romantic relationships.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 OP you need mental professional help, you have insurance? If not, call Obama.
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