superchiefs Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Ok, so I have been dating a girl for a little over a week. We have gone out 4 times in the past 10 days and I had enjoyed all of our dates. However, yesterday, I felt like things got a little out of hand. The girl called me 3 times throughout the day and she sent me over 100 text messages. I like that she is excited about me, but I feel like it is getting to be a little much. How do I tell her to back off a bit without making her angry? I dont want her to stop contacting me completely as I do enjoy the attention to an extent, it just seems like yesterday was a little overboard.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Just tell her you appreciate that she is keeping you in her thoughts so much through the day. But since you are pretty busy duting the day on most nights, it is hard to text a lot. Tell her you would love to talk to her later in the day on the phone as it saves time and is very personal. You also like to hear her lovely voice. if she still texts you 100x in 24 hours, you will know she has no respect for you and is insecure, needy, clingy yacky girl. Than you tell her that you like her, but you are both in different periods in life and it would not work out.
geegirl Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 100 text messages a day!!! Maybe the next time you see a marathon coming your way, after a few back and forths, just gently say that you're going to be rather busy and won't be able to respond to her but will certainly call soon after you leave work to catch up. She'll learn the drill. 100 text messages...she's a smitten kitten!
Mack05 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 (edited) Ok, so I have been dating a girl for a little over a week. We have gone out 4 times in the past 10 days and I had enjoyed all of our dates. However, yesterday, I felt like things got a little out of hand. The girl called me 3 times throughout the day and she sent me over 100 text messages. I like that she is excited about me, but I feel like it is getting to be a little much. How do I tell her to back off a bit without making her angry? I dont want her to stop contacting me completely as I do enjoy the attention to an extent, it just seems like yesterday was a little overboard. Mate, I think I said it in a previous thread that I felt it was a little quick to move on. I still feel that this is the case. I think right now you should take time out for yourself. You haven't grieved your last relationship properly. People tend to move on quick, when they don't want to have to deal with grief from a previous relationship (whether you are the dumper or dumpee you need to take stock and grieve a relationship, that takes time). By avoiding going through this grief process, you are asking for trouble down the line. Emotions are like weeds. You don't deal with them correctly, they will eventually run wild. If you want my opinion, I would take time out for me. I hope you prove me wrong, but considering the frame of mind you entered into this relationship (dating), the chances of long term success are slim... I like many others have made mistakes. One of the biggest lessons I have learnt is before entering a new relationship, my confidence and self esteem must be high within myself. Also, I shouldn't be carrying a torch for any other girl or thinking about any other girl. By going into a relationship/dating it's best to go into it, in the best frame of mind possible. Our relationship trends tend to follow how we are feeling within ourselves and the current state of our overall lives. Super from reading your threads, in my opinion you ain't ready buddy..You are a grown man though more then capable of making his own decisions. This is just my opinion.. Edited July 5, 2011 by Mack05
california15 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 i vote for all the above advice. but wanted to share that Once my friend had a guy who sounds like the new girl you're seeing and while I don't advocate for lying, my friend told the guy she could only recieve a limited number a texts a month and thought it would be better if they could spread their texting out and enjoy it all month instead of all in one day.
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