lance.dark Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. I work a lot so we've only seen each other three times - once just for dinner and then the other two times I stayed the night. I pretty much have to see her on the weekends because I work a lot. I like her more than others I've been with recently. What I'd like to do this Friday is after work go to her place and on the way grab dinner for us. Then watch a movie (something we've been trying to do but we never get past the menu...) and pass out. Is it too early to do something like that? Also how would you ask? In conjunction with this I was thinking of sliding a note under her door in the morning (perhaps with a flower) to ask her instead of calling (which has been my usual MO) just to change things up. Is that a good idea? Thanks for your input.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Way to early and you thinking too much about her for just three times seeing her bro. Just relax, step back, no flowers or under door stuff, that would make you look "not cool" in her eyes. Like some kid trying to impress. She is the one who also should be trying to impress you. If you both have time, go to the movies, if you gonna go to her place to watch a movie, be ready to have sex or don't go. Have you guys kissed yet and how old are you two?
Author lance.dark Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 We are 21 and we have made out twice.
oldguy Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I think it's kind of sweet. But I would take her out to a movie & dinner. I've been married for... a long time & if I'm going on a date with my wife I want her to feel like she's on a date not like we're room mates. Or you could cook for her, if you can cook
RedRussian8080 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Advice from a long time married "Man" is no good. His spirit and manhood has been terminated by the female agenda. I say don't cook or clean or walk her dogs at this point. Stand back and enjoy your alone time. Taking her to the movies is not special or creative. Cooking for her is too emasculating at this point. Take it slow and be patient.
Dust Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Since you haven’t had sex yet just inviting yourself over for dinner and a movie at her place is the equivalent of trying to have sex with her. So, yeah go ahead and suggest it just be warned you may have to go out have fun and have a few drinks before suggesting to go back to either of your places. Suggest you’ll pick up a tasty pizza and salad from a good place not a national chain. Tell her to have drinks ready.
youngskywalker Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 and pass out.. It just clicked for me... so all those women who ended up "passing out" at my place didn't do it because they were tired. It was there way of staying over night. Sheesh I can be so dense. Anyway OP, I wouldn't do that. It sounds really wimpy and if she actually doesn't want you to stay long it will annoy the crap out of her. Also, don't do the note or flowers thing, way too early, she might freak out.
Author lance.dark Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 I thought it was a bad thing to do which is why I asked. I think the better plan is to go to a show that my friend is playing in.
youngskywalker Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 (edited) I thought it was a bad thing to do which is why I asked. I think the better plan is to go to a show that my friend is playing in. Screw the plans... you're missing the point. The only thing you need to do in a newfound relationship is be a gentleman and be yourself. Anything more than that and you're asking for failure. There is no way you can make this girl like you. NEWS FLASH, shes' already made up her mind about you. I've had major failures in the past but if there is one thing I've learned is this.... when a girl likes you and you like her, there is no stopping the attraction and romance. If you have to try REALLY hard then just cut your losses and move on. Good luck and let us know how it goes. "when a girl likes you, it's as easy as apple pie" Edited July 5, 2011 by youngskywalker
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