93TheHitStick Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Not good at talking to people online since i don't like to get too personal. Anyway cute girl on facebook and i hit her up. Never met her but i know of her. Convo went like this: Hey wassup? Her: Nothing. Wassup with you? Me: Just kickin back. You? Her: I c thats cool. doing the same pretty much Me: Yup. So how was your fourth? Her: Good and yours? Me: Pretty good getting sick of these fireworks though lol. No reply yet. It is like 12:30 out here so she could have just went to sleep or something idk. Should i message her again tomorrow if still no message? What should i say? Think shes just not interested? Don't want to come off as super desperate or anything. Wanna hurry up and take this relationship offline though cuz i'm better at chatting girls up in person.
smudge21 Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Slow down there sailor, I think you're seeing something that isn't there. Unless there's more to this story (how do you know of her) then I'd say she's just being polite and friendly. No indication of any flirting or possible chance to date. That said, every fire starts with a single spark, so that's not to say this couldn't become something. Depends on a lot of factors: both your backgrounds, are you both single, live local, attracted to each other, yaddy yaddy blah blah... basically, you're at the very early stages of meeting someone, so just continue being polite. Keep your cool and don't drown the poor girl in messages. Be the first to send her something one day but then wait for her to reply the next (if she doesn't then that's usually a good indication she 'aint interested).
Author 93TheHitStick Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 Slow down there sailor, I think you're seeing something that isn't there. Unless there's more to this story (how do you know of her) then I'd say she's just being polite and friendly. No indication of any flirting or possible chance to date. That said, every fire starts with a single spark, so that's not to say this couldn't become something. Depends on a lot of factors: both your backgrounds, are you both single, live local, attracted to each other, yaddy yaddy blah blah... basically, you're at the very early stages of meeting someone, so just continue being polite. Keep your cool and don't drown the poor girl in messages. Be the first to send her something one day but then wait for her to reply the next (if she doesn't then that's usually a good indication she 'aint interested). Well the fact that she added me tells me she at least thinks im cute. Idc if she is being polite or friendly cuz ima pull her with the game skills. Anyway she just replied back. Her: YEa i know those fireworks are gettin annoyin. HAven't said anything back. Want to start like a really good convo. Tips?
Eddie Edirol Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 The fact that it took her a while to reply back was a hint to leave her alone. You can keep trying, but assume shes not really interested, and her responses will make more sense.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 The fact that it took her a while to reply back was a hint to leave her alone. You can keep trying, but assume shes not really interested, and her responses will make more sense. From what you posted I don't see any indication of you two flirting. Just a normal, casual association conversation to me. ...wow. What is with you guys? IF she wanted me to leave her alone why would she feel the need to reply at all? If she preferred not to talk to me why would she go through the trouble of adding me? And don't say "to be polite" I have never met her and i know that she is not a "polite" Girl by any meaning of the word. Trust me when i say I know she wants it. Period.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 ...wow. What is with you guys? IF she wanted me to leave her alone why would she feel the need to reply at all? If she preferred not to talk to me why would she go through the trouble of adding me? And don't say "to be polite" I have never met her and i know that she is not a "polite" Girl by any meaning of the word. Trust me when i say I know she wants it. Period. Nope. Women get confronted like this all the time, and they try to "play nice" to avoid getting stalked and harrassed. If she tells you to go away, she could get harrassed, same if she ignores you. So rather than telling you that she doesnt want to talk to you, she "hints" to you to go away, but replying less and less. Like I said, you can keep trying, but dont count on getting anywhere with this. Plus its creepy to look for people on facebook.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 Nope. Women get confronted like this all the time, and they try to "play nice" to avoid getting stalked and harrassed. If she tells you to go away, she could get harrassed, same if she ignores you. So rather than telling you that she doesnt want to talk to you, she "hints" to you to go away, but replying less and less. Like I said, you can keep trying, but dont count on getting anywhere with this. Plus its creepy to look for people on facebook. ...She has liked three of my pictures. She added me. Right on her profile it says that she is a "real @ss chick" And shes not going to talk to people that she thinks are fake or that she doesn't want to talk to. She isn't a nice girl. I doubt she would care about my feelings. And if was harassing her she would probably try to get someone to fight me. If she didn't want to talk to me she would make it quite obvious and probably insult me on my wall. So yes i am sure that she wants to talk to me.
smudge21 Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 You need to re-read what we're all saying. We're not trying to sound negative on this, but we can only go on what you've told us, and from that it sounds like she's just being polite. Sorry but when did adding someone on Facebook mean you want to date them? I must've missed that rule when I signed up. If that's the case, then I've got some dates that are owed to me from quite a few female (and worryingly, male) friends! Take a step back - it's clear you want more to happen but at the moment, that's not the case. Continue being polite and chatting, but please try to remember that you have no idea what this girl is doing whilst she's chatting to you - she could be chatting to a hundred other 'friends' at the same time. Until you know more or you get some more positive signs, then try not to think there's anything more there other than a nice girl who likes to chat to 'friends' on Facebook. Oh and the line "she'd get someone to fight me" if she doesn't like you - it's clear the dating game has changed a lot recently.
rafallus Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 (edited) I don't see anything here suggesting that she is interested in anything more than a casual conversation. She takes long to respond, because she simply has more important things to do in life than to chat with a random guy on FB. Well the fact that she added me tells me she at least thinks im cute. Idc if she is being polite or friendly cuz ima pull her with the game skills. Don't flatter yourself. Most girls will add random guys just to increase their "friends" counter. IF she wanted me to leave her alone why would she feel the need to reply at all? You haven't offended her yet (if you suddenly "pull some game skills" on her, you probably will), so she just might. You need to re-read what we're all saying. We're not trying to sound negative on this, but we can only go on what you've told us, and from that it sounds like she's just being polite. Indeed. We're not being negative. Just realistic. Edited July 6, 2011 by rafallus
Author 93TheHitStick Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 I don't see anything here suggesting that she is interested in anything more than a casual conversation. She takes long to respond, because she simply has more important things to do in life than to chat with a random guy on FB. Don't flatter yourself. Most girls will add random guys just to increase their "friends" counter. You haven't offended her yet (if you suddenly "pull some game skills" on her, you probably will), so she just might. Indeed. We're not being negative. Just realistic. K well she just gave me her number and told me to text her:rolleyes: The fact that she liked three of my pics and said "hey cutie thanks for the accept" the day she added me tells me that she prolly has some interest. Not asking her on date because don't have date money btw.
rafallus Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Not asking her on date because don't have date money btw. Thanks for proving my point, Poindexter
grkBoy Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 So...where was the flirting in that? You just chatted...don't take it as more than it is. You'll know she's INTO YOU when she's suddenly popping up to say hi, seems genuinely interested in you and in your life. Small talk means nothing. She was just being polite.
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