Is there hope or not?

[sleeplessinchicity]

Me and the BF separated after dating for 4 months. Everything was moving lightning fast and in a good way for the both of us. He said I pushed him away (and in retrospect I accept some of that blame due to insecurity). I asked him to consider giving it another try. We kept in minimalistic contact by text. When I finally got up the nerve and invited him on a date night. He agreed but never set a day. Every day I suggested was a bad one. After 3 failed attempts, I told him that I would leave him alone and that he could contact me. 2 weeks went by with no word. I ran into him and broke. I began to text and he responded. But I don't know what this means. I've told him how I feel, I've told him I want him back. He never responds to those remarks. But random hi, how are you texts. Is there hope for us? Is he waiting for a bigger first step from me? Is this just all in my mind?

[Exit]

Asking to go out together is a pretty decent first step, if he was looking for an opportunity to do so I think he'd be responding to you. You can either cut your losses and just stop talking to him all together, or next time you get a meaningless "whats up" message from him, say "hey... I asked if we could do something, you're acting like it never happened. If you aren't interested please stop the random contact and let's be apart."

[sleeplessinchicity]

Thank you for the words. I did let him know and he just never responded whether or not he wanted to make the attempt. Which translates to playing games. I don't have time for that. I'm cutting communication. He knows how to find me.

[wilsonx]

Just give him space, it sounds like you hit the nail on the head, you guys went way to fast and he was uncomfortable with the pace. At the same time, look for someone else as well, dont wait on him. You will end up hurting yourself. He might not be the right guy for you